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5 (Good) Reasons to Leave a Narcissist


It's not easy to leave a narcissist. Focusing on good, solid reasons is a vital step. It's a necessary momentum to reach a goal vital to your wellbeing and life, in this case, to open the cage door of a toxic relationship, and realize you've had wings to fly away along ... at minimum emotionally.

It starts in the mind, your mind. Not his.

In a sense, leaving him is the easy part. You want to start...
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Conscious Lifestyle

20 Quotes for a Mindfully Happy and Healthy New Year!



Happiness is more than getting what you want. A happy and healthy New Year begins with you. It's an inside job.

It's realizing how grateful you are for the blessings you have, and how essential this is to energize an ever brighter future.

A list of resolutions can be great. If it hasn't worked in the past, why not something new?

How about an overarching resolution -- happiness -- to realize what you're already hardwired to, and...
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4 Traits That Make Identifying Narcissism a Guessing Game


Let's clear the fog. At least four traits often associated with narcissism, wittingly or unwittingly, cause confusion instead.
They lead to costly errors that mask the real narcissists, perhaps also fall into their plan, for example, to blame-shift the label to a partner they are smearing.

Even worse, victims of narcissistic abuse are prone to blame themselves for a narcissist's wrongs, and narcissists...
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Why Sexual Assault Is Based on Powerlessness, Not Power

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It's clear that rape and sexual assault are not about sex.

What is less clear, however, is that these acts are also not merely about power -- at least not power per se. They are rather a form of power, or lust, to objectify, diminish, dehumanize, exploit another.

This cannot be emphasized enough.

Like mass shootings and domestic violence, and pedophilia, intentional acts of violence, emotional or physical, are about deriving pleasure from...
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Psychopathology of Extreme Masculinity, Mass Shootings, Assault and Rape


Mass shootings may be impossible to predict, however, a cultural milieau that idealizes violence for men (and authority figures in general) as "necessary" for the maintenance of "social order" that keeps those deemed "low" status groups in their place, is one that breeds domestic violence, rape and assault of women, child sexual abuse, bullying -- and mass shootings.

Extreme masculinity depicts maleness as a construct that, essentially, stands against everything that...
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Redefining Narcissism as a Love Deficit

Narcissism is a love deficit; and a narcissist a lost soul.

It isn't that he's not fully equipped for human love. He is. Like everyone else, he is human. It's just that he hates the idea of being human. He has trained himself, from the time he was a child, increasingly, to feel disgust at signs of human "love stuff," to prove he's above such weakness.

He's fought hard, in...
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Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome


Narcissistic abuse is what a person in a relationship with someone that meets the criteria for narcissistic (NPD) or antisocial (APD) personality disorder experiences. The potentially crippling, life long effects of narcissistic abuse on a partner's mental health form a cluster of symptoms, not yet included in the DSM, known as narcissist victim syndrome.
Narcissistic abuse
Narcissists and sociopaths use language in specific ways, with a specific intent to take another's mind and will captive. The...
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Conscious Lifestyle

10 Habits to Make Happiness a Lifestyle

Life is so fascinating. There’s always something to learn and do, and there's unfinished business, a situation to resolve, a habit to break, a relationship to start or improve, something to see in new and different ways. It’s part of feeling alive.

Or is it? Does thinking about challenges or a relationship issues turn your mind to thoughts of lack? To feeling stuck, unhappy, stacking one negative on top of another? If so, your thoughts may be scaring you into...
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