Grass is Greener Syndrome: Starvation of Needs

'Grass is Greener' Syndrome is no joke.

People often regard this issue with a quick wave of the hand -- "Oh, you always think the grass is greener on the other side." However, for people who struggle with this issue, it is incredibly stressful and taxing, mentally and emotionally. It tends to wreak havoc in various areas of people's lives, especially in relationships, career, the choice of where to live, and other areas as well.


Grass is Greener Syndrome: The Pain of Loss

Grass is Greener Syndrome (GIG) is a complicated issue. What is understood and experienced as GIG Syndrome is actually the larger symptom of an underlying process that has been building for some time. It's generally a combination of separate issues coming together to create a larger scale problem. I am a therapist in New York City, and coach people long distance all over the world on overcoming and managing GIG Syndrome. In my experience, there's a lot to say about the complexity of this issue, of which only a piece can be addressed in this post (see The Grass is Greener Syndrome for a previous article).


Fear of Flying: The Underlying Causes

One of the four main components of the fear of flying coaching method I developed almost a decade ago -- the Balanced Flying Method -- takes a look at the 'underlying' emotions that are likely to be contributing to each person's anxiety surrounding flying. The underlying causes vary from one person to the next, as the mind and body carry the emotional weight of past events. The emotional impact of these events is often dissociated from consciousness, which makes the emotions even more powerful when they're triggered in the present.


Fear of Flying: Surviving Turbulence

Fear of flying is a complicated phobia. One of the most difficult parts of overcoming fear of flying is allowing the possibility of having a different experience of flying. The people I work with in my psychotherapy and coaching practice often start our work struggling with detaching themselves from their previous associations to flying. Inside their minds, they have seen their worst nightmare play out many times. The story has already been written, as far as they're concerned. They are simply waiting for reality to catch up.


Anxiety Sucks…Literally

Anxiety really does suck. Ask anyone going through the difficulties of being invaded by anxiety. It sucks the life out of you. I've seen many people in my practice who come in struggling with the effects of anxiety -- the chronic worrying, rumination, difficulty slowing down physiologically and/or mentally, trouble socializing in many cases, difficulty with focus, migraines and headaches, irritable bowel flare ups, trouble sleeping, or falling asleep too early often, and more. By the time the day is done, they are exhausted, partially from their day, and then even further just from the mental and physical gymnastics that anxiety brings.


8 Steps to Motivate Yourself…

...To do things you don't want to do.

I'm sure everyone has had these moments from time to time, at least. Whether it's a project or task for work, paper or studying for school, cleaning or organizing at home,  or dealing with any other range of burdensome responsibilities you don't want to deal with, the procrastination bug sets in and getting started on anything at all feels daunting and overwhelming.

So, what are some ways to create motivation for something that you have really little desire to do in the first place?


The Impact of Silencing Your Voice

In my practice, one of my specialties is working with people who struggle with various types of anxiety. One of the themes I see almost across the board with anxiety is the comfort zone with silencing one's own voice -- whether it's out of fear of rejection, judgment, or otherwise. This has a far-reaching impact on how people experience who they are as a person, having needs met in relationships, as well as emotional states in relationships and friendships with others.