The Many Faces of Anxiety

Anxiety is often seen as a collective ball. An all-encompassing state of being that you either have or don't have.

But in reality, there are various forms of anxiety that one could struggle with (and they are not all optimally treated by the same therapeutic approaches as the other).


Fear of Flying: Plane Crashes and Reverse Normalization

The recent Ethiopian Airlines 737 Max accident has created a stir for people who already experience flying anxiety. For people who aren't afraid of flying, an incident like this tends to be just that -- an isolated incident amongst millions and millions of safe flights. It is, of course, always disturbing and upsetting to see the loss of life. At the same time, however, these incidents don't tend to deter the non-fearful flyer from flying. (Probably not much differently than you feel with driving. If you hear about a fatal car accident, it likely doesn't make you feel that you should stop driving).


Growing Up with Divorce — The Internal Split

It isn't news that growing up with divorced parents has an impact on our psychological and emotional lives. It's already well-known that children of divorce are more likely to end up in a broken marriage of their own as adults. It's also known that the earlier in one's life that they experience the divorce/separation of their parents, the greater impact it tends to have.


New Year’s and Self-Improvement

New Years can hold a variety of meaning for people. While the concept of the "New Year's Resolution" is a popular annual game, it is the overall opportunity that New Years represents which is worthy of our attention. The opportunities people embrace are different for everyone. But what New Years provides is a marker in time to check in with ourselves. These can be opportunities to improve ourselves overall, improve our relationships with ourselves and others, our emotional health, self-care, fulfillment habits, and others. These opportunities are really open to us year round, but New Years is a convenient point in time that reminds us to reflect on our lives as a whole, including our self-improvement goals.


Dealing with Family on the Holidays

"Dealing" with family. It would be nice if everybody was able to cherish their family time in the manner the holiday classics envision, but sadly, this isn't reality for many people. The holidays have a way of bringing families together, but for some, being...


The Difficulty of Overcoming Fear of Flying

Fear of flying (or flying anxiety, flying phobia) is a difficult fear for many to kick. It has a way of paralyzing people into long-term avoidance of flying or into crippling levels of anxiety, ranging from panic attacks to complete shut down when faced with flying. Even the mere thought of flying for some can trigger anxiety and panic on its own. But, why is fear of flying often so difficult for people to overcome?


Does Nostalgia Fuel Depression?

Ah, the good old days.

If only I could go back and relive those moments. Nothing will ever be as good as that time with my friends as a teenager, the holidays with my family, or playing in the backyard as a child, chasing my dog. Or many other moments in the past that I wish I could revisit.

I wish I could rewind the movie of my life and be there again, as if for the first time, but this time to "know then what I know now." How I wouldn't take it for granted this time. How I'd be aware with every passing moment how special each moment actually is and was, and truly cherish them in the moment this time around. 


Fear of Flying: Solving YOUR Puzzle

In my practice, I have been using the comprehensive method I created for helping people overcome fear of flying -- the Balanced Flying Method™ -- for almost a full decade now. It was originally inspired from my own previous fear of flying, and later developed more fully based on my years of training as a psychotherapist. While the method saw positive results from the start, It has achieved a much higher rate of success than I could have envisioned at the beginning.


Why Small Talk Causes Anxiety

One of my specialties in my practice is working with people who struggle with various forms of anxiety, including social anxiety. And it's a consensus that small talk is a thorn in most people's sides. Small talk is something that has the appearance of being easy -- and some people do master the art of small talk over time to where navigating it can become second nature. However, there are reasons that small talk is often difficult and anxiety-inducing for many people.


Is ‘Instant Gratification’ Really Gratifying?

We live in a world where instant (and constant) gratification seems to be the demand. We want responses to texts and emails immediately. We can watch TV without commercials, watch an entire series without delay, and press pause were we to ever be in danger of missing a minute. We can pull out our phone and go shopping the moment we realize we want or need something. In many cases, we can have things delivered to us, even on the same day we place an order.