6 thoughts on “Assumptions are Toxic to Relationships

  • August 16, 2013 at 1:47 am

    How many times do we, as adults and parents, play down or somehow disbelieve many things that our children say to us especially about what happens at school, at the mall, on the sporting field etc. Yet interestingly, we same adults will have a tendency to want to believe or confirm a belief or assumption about something that is close to our heart (such as the assumed cheating scenario described in the article). Talk about applying double standards. I think the article is spot on and perhaps a wake up call to all of us who like to let gossip, rumor and assumptions rule our head and our actions.

    • September 18, 2013 at 9:44 am

      I think the article is geared towards adults…children need to be handled differently…if I had a child who came home with a “wild” story…I would believe him/her but I would first verify it and depending on what the story is…take appropriate action.

  • December 26, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    I think this article is right on with the assumption of a cheating spouse. My sister and her
    husband got a divorce in 2009 with no proof of anything. They just went by hearsay, and
    didn’t confront each other….

  • February 29, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    When you get involved with someone on the rebound.Remember that you are not getting involved with the real person..The REAL person is really hiding out in “Rebound Land” When that person has time to grow and get her/his head together .Don’t be surprised to be confronted with someone you have no clue who/what He/She Is ..That is why rebounders have a lot higher divorce rate…So stay away from them let them use someone else to screw up and disappoint..OK?

  • June 16, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    Finally i find a honest and truthful thread about assumptions and im shocked not more of this is talked about in the world since it is probably the leading cause of all kinds of things like divorces lawsuits, violence, and all around hate. Im guessing most all hate stems from assuming including racism and more. I have been through 4 relationships and im 47 and everyone of them started strong ended in her assuming i was a flirt or cheat. My profession as a musician/producer enhances those feelings just from the work i do. I do not cheat but i also do not turn away from fans smiles and conversations because my partner doesnt like it. Where is the strength and the trust? I never showed any signs i was cheating, however i have had fans hit on me and ofcourse flattered i handled it nicely and moved on instead of being a jerk about it. Apparently Anytime someone flirts with me it’s my fault? Is there any hope left out there? I have integrity, my own home and independance and im very caring and around family 80% of the time. Playing piano, being a gemini with a fun personality amd a zest for living seems to be a sin in my life. I believe i know some of the answers as i majored in psychology and philosiphy in college but then again it appears i do not.

  • October 25, 2019 at 8:02 am

    Any thoughts about assumptions or miscommunication among casual friends? Earlier this year I lost a friend because she thought we were just good friends and I thought we were going to have a long term romantic relationship.

    By the time we realized what was happening the damage was already done. We both assumed wrong, and it destroyed the friendship.


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