2 thoughts on “7 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

  • October 17, 2012 at 11:01 am

    I’ve got aspergers syndrome so I can’t have a sex life. Girls are not willing to look within.

    • October 18, 2012 at 5:05 pm

      I have Asperger’s too, and I have a sex life.

      Honestly, it’s not nearly as awesome or life fulfilling as it’s made out to be. Don’t sweat it too much.

      While I can understand the feelings of dejection that coincide with your predicament, you should really consider putting it into perspective. Evaluate the very statement you’ve just made, because it’s rather revealing to some of your struggles.

      You’re very quick to place the blame upon either Asperger’s and women, but fail to look at yourself. The very structure of your thought reads as “Girls must look past my exterior and my Asperger’s so I can have a sex life,” thus displaying an inability to take action against obstacles. I can tell you for a fact that people pick up on that, because your behavior and mannerisms will inherently reflect your frame of mind; even when you don’t say it. Most people find this sort of attitude to be unattractive, because it shows a lack of initiative, so consider re-evaluating how you internalize set-backs and how it influences your outlook on the world around you. What you’re doing now is clearly very unhealthy and detrimental to your personal image and well-being.

      I honestly would advise you to figure yourself out before chasing after the notion of intimacy. There are people out there who will take advantage of you and exploit you through your longing for sexual experience. There are people who will lie to you about their sexual history, STDs, and current partners to have sex with you, and without sorting your struggles with Autism and the challenges you face with social integration you’ll be nothing more than an unfortunate victim to dishonest ploys. Given your diagnosis, you are at greater risk of such a situation arising due to your inhibited social awareness. That’s a pretty serious thing to consider, which is why I advise you to really examine yourself first.

      I’d like to finish with telling you there is a difference between how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you. While you may see yourself as an all around good person who simply isn’t engaging, that may not be the consensus of those around you. Try asking different people you can trust about what kind of impression or “vibe” you give off, and figure out what you would like to change, if anything.

      Hope this gives you something to work with. Again, pursue professional therapy and counseling for your diagnosis. It will help you more than anything a random stranger on the internet can say to you.


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