3 thoughts on “Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex

  • September 8, 2012 at 5:17 am

    Great article! I really enjoyed it. One thing that parents often forget is that fact that kids will encounter a variety of people and influences over a course of their lifetime. What I have learned is this: sometimes we learn in spite of poor role models, especially if there are other positive influences in our lives. Those influences don’t always need to be our parents. It’s nice if it is, of course. I like how you put that piece into perspective by saying focus on how you want your kids to see you rather than on how you’d like your ex to behave. Sage advice…

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    • September 8, 2012 at 1:53 pm

      Well-said, Shannon! Positive role-models can be other people than the parents, and sometimes need to be People who turn out well don’t necessarily have an upbringing that excluded negative role models. Thank you for reading and for your comment.

      -Nathan

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  • May 18, 2016 at 12:53 am

    Someone help me! My ex has always been difficult but lately something has changed… I am the custodial parent and we have never wen to court for custody (so my exes rights go as far as I say) plus my ex has never made a single child suport payment (despite the order). But even with all of that I still make it a point that my 4 year old son spends atleast 3 days a week with his dad and that side of his family. It’s been over a year now that his dad and I have been seperated and things were rough but okay. Here as of late though when I got to pick up my son who has been reliant on me for everythig since birth didn’t want to come with me. The child that always wants his mommy wouldn’t even look at me and cried when I picked him up! This completely broke my heart and is way out of the ordinary for my mamas boy. And when I confronted my ex he said he is getting older he can decide what he wants. I’m so lost I don’t know what is hapening or why my baby has turned against me, and i have no clue what to do about it. My once sweet 4 year old little boy cries a lot when he is home has an attitude I don’t understand. I have a tried to be the best mother I could ever bee seeing as how I grew up without one. An now I’m terrified my ex is trying to turn my son against me because I have moved on and brought a great man into my sons life and things are going okay for me. I don’t want to stop him for seeing his dad because then I will be the one to blame for his dad not being in his life, but I can’t stand by and watch as my baby slips completely away from me… Someone please give some advice on what to do here, or atleast how to cope…. . Sincerely
    A Heartbroken Mother

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