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I’m a Therapist: Here’s What Annoys Me…

It really takes a lot to get on my nerves as a therapist. In fact, there are very few things that would actually annoy me when working with someone. But there is one thing I find myself frustrated by whenever the issue shows up:

The controlling partner therapy veteran.

3 thoughts on “I’m a Therapist: Here’s What Annoys Me…

  • September 18, 2019 at 10:29 am

    I am curious about the issue brought up in this article on burgeoning autonomy of a partner in therapy and what is healthy interdependence in a
    functioning relationship. Perfect autonomy is someone living alone on an island. Enmeshed and controlled is the other extreme. Where is the happy medium of interdependent , caring, emotionally connected, and also good boundaries?

  • September 18, 2019 at 10:46 am


    Thank you so much for sharing this perspective. As a LCSW myself in direct practice, I can relate to your post well. It is at times difficult and frustrating to work with families, support systems, and other individuals who’s actions and reactions make their way into the therapy session or hinder the client’s personal process in some way. I found the tips you included helpful in reminding myself to utilize that outside factor constructively in the therapy process.

    Best of luck in your work!

  • September 18, 2019 at 8:03 pm

    I think what you are describing is that you may just be a really good therapist who enables your clients to change. People enter therapy often for depression, anxiety, feeling unsettled. It is not unusual to discover that your lover/partner/spouse who even may have pushed you to get help is a bully and has a notion of how you should be. Its a great side effect that therapy pushes many of us into either rethinking and working on unhealthy relationships or just getting out of them.


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