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Divorce

Are Rebound Relationships Doomed?

Rebound relationships can be quite intense. It's often the case that the longer the previous relationship, the more intense the rebound. Why does this happen?

Rebounds have a lot to do with our attachment makeup (based on early life development). To create a visual, imagine for a second that you have a bunch of strings coming out of you -- each string representing a type of need based on our attachment type. When in...
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Family

Bedtime with Your Partner

A bed can be for more than just sleep and sex. It's can also be a place and opportunity to increase the togetherness of your relationship. When managing the stresses of daily life, it can become easy to give up something seemingly simple, such as going to bed at the same time as your partner. Sometimes working at home may keep one partner up; or maybe one wants to watch something...
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7 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

Sex in relationships is not always easy to maintain. Many things get in the way, from creating time for intimacy, to our own emotional issues that block intimacy, to issues in the relationship. It would take an entire book to discuss all the possible obstacles that could come between a couple and a healthy sex life, so rather than do this, let's go right to some possible solutions.

There are...
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Family

7 Ways to Show Appreciation

The ability to  show appreciation to the important people in our lives is heavily underrated. When we feel under-appreciated, it can start eating away at our relationships. We may start to feel taken for granted, or taken advantage of, and get a sense that our partners, family, or friends don't actually regard what they bring to our lives.

If you take the time to make someone a cup of coffee every day, and they...
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Can a Relationship Survive an Affair?

It depends.

People respond to a partner's affair in different ways, depending on personal values. Some may respond by immediately leaving the relationship without looking back. Some may believe in the concept of working through adversity together and seeing if they can make it through as a stronger couple. Some may believe that the family is paramount (especially when children are involved) and want to work things out for the sake of...
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The Trick to Saying “No”

It can be very hard to say "no" to people. It seems like it should be an easy thing to do; someone asks a question, we want to say "no," but something stops us from actually letting the word out, or even speaking a comparable, more gentle variation. In many cases, we end up either saying "yes" when we don't really want to, or we outright lie. But saying "no" is...
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