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How to Prevent Money from Hurting Your Relationship

Money can be a touchy topic in relationships, whether you have a little bit or a whole lot. How we handle money is usually related to a deeper emotional issue, rather than strictly a financial issue. Our personal relationship with money creates the foundation for how we handle finances in our significant relationships. And when our partners don't share the same type of relationship with money as we do, money-handling can...
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6 Signs Your Marriage May Be in Trouble

In order to make improvements in our relationships, it's necessary to figure out what's not working and in order to figure out what's not working well, we first have to recognize the signs of trouble (the symptoms that suggest there is an underlying issue).

There are certain more obvious cues that suggest something is wrong in a relationship, such as abuse, or emotional and/or sexual affairs. But it's often a combination...
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The Relationship Mood Alert

When we take a moment to notice how we manage our day-to-day, moment-to-moment moods within our relationships, it's interesting to see that the first communication of a bad mood is usually already too late to prevent conflict. How often does your partner snap at you (or vice versa), with that moment being the first realization that he or she is in a bad mood?

I do occasionally come into contact with couples where one...
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Arguing the Past: “You Didn’t Say That!”

Have you ever been in an argument with your partner where you both reference a conversation or an event that occurred in the past, and can't agree on what actually happened? But you both believe beyond all doubt that you know exactly what happened and what was said?

It's a common relationship battle where a point in the past is the focus of a current conflict. For example:

Partner #1: "You said you'd...
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Depression: Re-Building the Self

Depression can be a tough topic to fully grasp without going through it, or at least have a loved one who's been strongly afflicted by depression. People who haven't been through depression have sometimes questioned depression as a state of laziness, while a person suffering from depression is going through a deep emotional struggle with their existence. Depression can be triggered from life events, and it can also have a biochemical component, or both. Whatever the trigger...
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Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex

Co-parenting with an ex can be a stressful and emotional endeavor, even when things are civil. Unfortunately, it is common that breakups are rough, and the co-parenting relationship involves friction, arguments, disagreements about parenting choices, general opposition, manipulation, and so on.

Identifying a Difficult Ex


A "difficult ex" can describe several personality types -- and if you're dealing with a difficult ex, you probably already know. Some may generally oppose any decisions or suggestions you make,...
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If You’re Going to Cheat, Be Prepared to Get Caught

Relationships all have their share of trying times. It's unrealistic that a relationship will always be happy and smooth. Even the best of relationships experience rough patches. But how we respond to these difficult moments is what determines the direction a relationship will take from there.

When relationships go through instability, we are more vulnerable to subconsciously turning away from the relationship. This can happen in different ways. Some may end up...
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