New Years can hold a variety of meaning for people. While the concept of the "New Year's Resolution" is a popular annual game, it is the overall opportunity that New Years represents which is worthy of our attention. The opportunities people embrace are different for everyone. But what New Years provides is a marker in time to check in with ourselves. These can be opportunities to improve ourselves overall, improve our relationships with ourselves and others, our emotional health, self-care, fulfillment habits, and others. These opportunities are really open to us year round, but New Years is a convenient point in time that reminds us to reflect on our lives as a whole, including our self-improvement goals.
"Dealing" with family. It would be nice if everybody was able to cherish their family time in the manner the holiday classics envision, but sadly, this isn't reality for many people. The holidays have a way of bringing families together, but for some, being...
Fear of flying (or flying anxiety, flying phobia) is a difficult fear for many to kick. It has a way of paralyzing people into long-term avoidance of flying or into crippling levels of anxiety, ranging from panic attacks to complete shut down when faced with flying. Even the mere thought of flying for some can trigger anxiety and panic on its own. But, why is fear of flying often so difficult for people to overcome?
Ah, the good old days. If only I could go back and relive those moments. Nothing will ever be as good as that time with my friends as a teenager, the holidays with my family, or playing in the backyard as a child, chasing my dog. Or many other moments in the past that I wish I could revisit. I wish I could rewind the movie of my life and be there again, as if for the first time, but this time to "know then what I know now." How I wouldn't take it for granted this time. How I'd be aware with every passing moment how special each moment actually is and was, and truly cherish them in the moment this time around.
In my practice, I have been using the comprehensive method I created for helping people overcome fear of flying -- the Balanced Flying Method™ -- for almost a full decade now. It was originally inspired from my own previous fear of flying, and later developed more fully based on my years of training as a psychotherapist. While the method saw positive results from the start, It has achieved a much higher rate of success than I could have envisioned at the beginning.
One of my specialties in my practice is working with people who struggle with various forms of anxiety, including social anxiety. And it's a consensus that small talk is a thorn in most people's sides. Small talk is something that has the appearance of being easy -- and some people do master the art of small talk over time to where navigating it can become second nature. However, there are reasons that small talk is often difficult and anxiety-inducing for many people.
We live in a world where instant (and constant) gratification seems to be the demand. We want responses to texts and emails immediately. We can watch TV without commercials, watch an entire series without delay, and press pause were we to ever be in danger of missing a minute. We can pull out our phone and go shopping the moment we realize we want or need something. In many cases, we can have things delivered to us, even on the same day we place an order.
'Grass is Greener' Syndrome is no joke. People often regard this issue with a quick wave of the hand -- "Oh, you always think the grass is greener on the other side." However, for people who struggle with this issue, it is incredibly stressful and taxing, mentally and emotionally. It tends to wreak havoc in various areas of people's lives, especially in relationships, career, the choice of where to live, and other areas as well.
Grass is Greener Syndrome (GIG) is a complicated issue. What is understood and experienced as GIG Syndrome is actually the larger symptom of an underlying process that has been building for some time. It's generally a combination of separate issues coming together to create a larger scale problem. I am a therapist in New York City, and coach people long distance all over the world on overcoming and managing GIG Syndrome. In my experience, there's a lot to say about the complexity of this issue, of which only a piece can be addressed in this post (see The Grass is Greener Syndrome for a previous article).
One of the four main components of the fear of flying coaching method I developed almost a decade ago -- the Balanced Flying Method -- takes a look at the 'underlying' emotions that are likely to be contributing to each person's anxiety surrounding flying. The underlying causes vary from one person to the next, as the mind and body carry the emotional weight of past events. The emotional impact of these events is often dissociated from consciousness, which makes the emotions even more powerful when they're triggered in the present.