Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners
Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership. The word...


Keeping Secrets is Bad for Your Health

Linda: James W. Pennebaker is a social psychologist, and a Centennial Liberal Arts Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, where he studies the health consequences of secrets. A pioneer of writing therapy, he has researched the link between language and recovering from trauma and been "recognized by the American Psychological Association as one of the top researchers on trauma, disclosure, and health. In his book, Opening Up: The Healing Power of Confiding in Others, (New York: Morrow,...


Confessions of a Recovering Stonewaller

Linda: Stonewalling occurs when attempts to work out a difficult issue have not worked. Due to criticism, reactivity, defensiveness, and contempt, feelings are raging so high that one partner attempts to protect themselves through a refusal to engage. There can be withdrawal and silence....