Sometimes a Marriage Has to Die in Its Present Form

Linda: Many couples know from their own experience how easy it is to become trapped in their roles in maintaining the family system. The pitfalls of such entrapment include feelings of disconnection, emptiness, loneliness, resentment, and ultimately apathy and despair. Without a change in the system, the only possible outcomes are divorce or a dead marriage. Barry and Maya had neglected their relationship for years, and drifted into patterns of complacency. By the time they had...


All The Best Lovers Are Gracious Receivers

Linda: In the following story, you can see that being aware of howwe give and receive can make a huge difference. For an exchange to work, the receiver has to consciously make room to receive what is needed, welcome fully what is actually available in the present, and feel the gratitude that appears when one receives deeply. This way of consciously receiving inspires the giver to gather, offer, aim, and release to the other the fullness of...


Humble Beginnings Can Give Birth to Great Achievements

Linda: Larry and Barbara didn’t begin their careers in medicine with a desire to become world-renowned experts in alternative forms of healing. It was their efforts to heal some of their own personal health issues that forced them to go beyond the limits of conventional medicine in their beliefs, practices, and teaching. Although they encountered a number of challenging circumstances professionally and personally, marital difficulty was not one of them. They were able to use the...


Marriage Does Require Some Sacrifice

For those of us who are “commitment-phobic,” we may fear that the costs of marriage will outweigh its rewards.

Often, this fear doesn’t stop us from getting married, but may stop us from giving ourselves fully to our relationship. There is a tendency to put our own needs (or what we think are our needs) before our partner’s, in an attempt to compensate for losing our freedom. Not surprisingly, this strategy doesn’t work.

Such a struggle to maintain...


The Meaning of Life

“People say that we’re searching for the meaning of life. I don’t think that’s it at all. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances...