Attraction

You Can’t Hurry Trust

Linda: When Joyce and Barry were both twenty-five, something happened that Joyce was completely unprepared for. Barry had an affair with her best friend. Neither of them could lie nor conceal the truth, so she found out about the affair because Barry told her...

Attraction

Is a “Good Enough Marriage” Enough for You?

Linda:Large numbers of people, some single desiring to be married, and some already married but struggling, would be happy to have a “good enough” marriage. In all likelihood, they are in the majority. Then there is a group that wishes to be happily married, are only mildly interested in striving toward a great marriage, but have not yet made it a central commitment in their life. Only a small group has raised their standards and is diligently...

Attraction

The New “Mixed Marriage”

Linda: Years ago, the term mixed marriage referred to a couple that came from different races or religions. These days, the term is used to refer to those who are from the same race or religion, but one of the pair is devoted to their personal growth or spiritual orientation, and their partner is not interested in that endeavor. Fear usually comes up that with only one so enthusiastic about self-actualization, that the chasm between them will...

Addiction

Rescue Marriage

“In a successful rescue marriage the partners’ early experiences have been traumatic. They are the walking wounded as they begin their lives together. The healing that takes place during the course of the marriage is the central theme.”

–Judith Wallerstine in The Good Marriage: How...

Addiction

There’s a Lid for Every Pot

Commitment and intention are both mighty forces, and are especially potent when they are combined. Commitment is one of the most important variables that contributes to the outcome of a project, whether it be finding someone to marry, co-creating a fulfilling marriage, a professional...

Commitment

I Don’t Remember Agreeing to This

An expcert from our new book released April 2018, That Which Doesn’t Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places
from Chapter 3: I Don’t Remember Agreeing to This
Linda: Looking into Charlie’s eyes after fifteen years together, I said, "Who are you? I don't know you. When I see the man you’ve become, I don't like you much. If I met you now, I wouldn't be attracted to you. I...

Children

Monogamy is More Than Sexual

Charlie: Perhaps no aspect of marriage is more provocative, challenging, and misunderstood than monogamy. More than an agreement for sexual exclusivity, monogamy is actually a shared commitment to consecrate marriage by containing our most intimate experiences within the relationship. The primary effect of this...

Commitment

Crisis Can Awaken Us

Charlie: In what for most of us is the frantic pace of daily life, couples often tend to forget much about what originally drew us together and focus more on the business, rather than the experience of sharing our lives together. We notice what's...

Commitment

Together, Against, Apart

Linda: In the field of couples counseling, a great deal is explored about the together aspect of relationships with attention placed on the critical importance of commitment, open communication, caring, and emotional and sexual intimacy. There is also a strong emphasis placed on learning...

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