4 thoughts on “14 Ways to Cultivate Empathy

  • July 1, 2016 at 10:39 pm

    I am sorry to say that I disagree with the article that says that empathy can be learned. You do not learn true empathy. If you have it, you are born with it. It is just like being an introvert or an extravert. It is who you are. It is God Given or source-given. It is also like being an HSP – a highly sensitive person, you are either born being sensitive, or you are not born being sensitive. Empathy comes from an individual’s soul, it is very deep and it cannot be learned or practiced. You can read and understand about empathy, but you cannot cultivate true empathy for yourself if you were not born with it. It is a spiritual gift from God. Some people have empathy and can brush up on their skill on how to use their gift, because some people who actually do have empathy, do not know how to use it and in that case, it may enable them to suffer; but you cannot get or cultivate empathy if you do not have it to begin with. Empathy comes from deep within and enables you to feel for the other person about what they are going through. You can visualize yourself in another person’s shoes, experiencing what they are experiencing, but the emotions or feelings will not be the same as someone who has true empathy or who are empathic. People with empathy can read and feel other’s emotions, it is a spiritual gift that cannot be taught or received if one was not born with it.

    • July 1, 2016 at 10:44 pm

      Also, I forgot to mention in the last post, people who have empathy cannot get rid of empathy, or ignore it, or not use it. It is who you are. Reading or trying to learn those techniques in this article will not and cannot cause one to be a true empath, or be empathic. It is like someone who is a true psychic, or clairvoyant, or remote viewer. We can read and understand some of the traits and qualities, but it comes from the soul. It was meant to be that people have certain traits and gifts, and having empathy or being an empath is certainly meant to be. I am an empath and an HSP and have been all my life and there is nothing I can do about it even if I wanted to change that fact. You cannot force yourself to be a clairvoyant if you are not one.

    • July 6, 2016 at 12:33 pm

      I disagree. I believe empathy can be learned if the person is willing and has the right heart condition to make it possible. We may be born with an innate sense to feel for others but that can diminish due to abuse and trauma. However, I believe we as humans can be taught anything if we are humble. I have read stories about a lot of people who had zero empathy that cultivated it by drawing closer to God and strengthening faith. Even though that is not mentioned in this article, there’s more than one way to be taught empathy. Just my opinion.

    • July 6, 2016 at 12:36 pm

      I also don’t believe people are born hypersensitive. I am hypersensitive and I know it is because of my traumatic background. I also have PTSD. Genetics may play a part but usually it has to be combined with a certain environment to cause a personality change. I honestly believe if I had a nurturing environment growing up I would not hypersensitive at all.


Join the Conversation!

We invite you to share your thoughts and tell us what you think in this public forum. Before posting, please read our blog moderation guidelines. A first name or pseudonym is required and will be displayed with your comment. Your email address is also required, but will be kept private. (Please note that we use gravatars here, which are tied to your email address.) A website/blog/twitter address is optional.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *