The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners
Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.
It’s only one word; and it has just two letters. Although it is clear, it is frequently not spoken, even when it should be. The failure to communicate this word is the cause of many relationship problems,
Linda: Stonewalling occurs when attempts to work out a difficult issue have not worked. Due to criticism, reactivity, defensiveness, and contempt, feelings are raging so high that one partner attempts to protect themselves through a refusal to engage.
Linda: Lilly knew that there was something missing in her partnership with her husband, Mitch. But it was hard for her to clearly define what it was that kept her from feeling connected to him and fully loved.