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Mastering the Art of Romantic Connection

Too often we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~ Leo Buscaglia

Linda: Some people are more naturally inclined to devote time and energy into mastering the art of romantic connection. Others are more inclined to place their attention elsewhere. Almost all of us have a learning deficit in this area due to the fact that positive models in the art of connection are so rare. Once the realization takes place where there is understanding of the extraordinary benefits that accompany this essential life skill, the motivation to devote time and energy to become competent in this area accelerates.

Let’s consider the benefits of mastering this art:

  1. Feeling a sense of belonging
  2. Increasing self-confidence
  3. Taking delight in a sense of alignment and harmony
  4. Reducing fear and anxiety
  5. Having curiosity and wonder about self and other.
  6. Enjoying a positive outlook.
  7. Experiencing strong energy and passion
  8. Engaging in the pursuit of joint goals
  9. Developing skills to achieve excellence
  10. Liberating creativity
  11. Building a solid, sturdy trust
  12. Participating in enthusiastic collaboration
  13. Inspiring each other to risk and grow
  14. Unleashing creativity
  15. Moving through transitions with ease
  16. Bringing out the best in each other
  17. Understanding each others assumptions, beliefs, expectations, and values
  18. Comforting each other through losses and disappointments
  19. Cooperating to solve problems
  20. Accepting life’s difficulties more easily because we don’t feel so alone
  21. Translating visions into realities
  22. Opening up communication
  23. Welcoming the exchange of feedback.
  24. Lowering stress
  25. Harnessing the rapport to experience physical affection and sexual pleasure
  26. Opening to the influence of the trusted other
  27. Understanding other and feeling understood
  28. Taking pleasure in feeling appreciated for our unique gifts
  29. Debating differences with a spirit of good will
  30. Becoming a better listener and developing empathy
  31. Cultivating humility to become a life-long learner
  32. Growing in generosity to be able to give more to others
  33. Lightening our load by sharing responsibilities
  34. Benefiting materially since when operating as a team, we make more money
  35. Removing our image to be authentic
  36. Living in appreciation and gratitude, with a sense that life is good.
  37. Increasing the ability to be fully present
  38. Deepening compassion for self and others
  39. Having a joint sense of purpose
  40. Increasing health and happiness, which slows down the aging process


Making our romantic connection a high priority is a great gift to ourselves and to our partner. When we do so, we make spending quality time together our highest priority. Then we put work and other concerns aside on a regular basis to show our genuine care with face-to-face communication. We put aside all electronic devices, (laptops, cellphones and tablets) to be fully present. Small but consistent adjustments can add up to deep fulfillment. When we consider the massive amount of benefits from focusing our attention on developing our skill in this area, it becomes obvious to us where we want to focus our precious life energy. Mastering the art of romantic connection has, as Leo Buscaglia says, “the potential to turn life around”.


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Mastering the Art of Romantic Connection


Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW are considered experts in the field of relationships. They have been married since 1972. They have both been trained as seminar leaders, therapists and relationship counselors and have been working with individuals, couples, and groups since 1975. They have been featured presenters at numerous conferences, universities, and institutions of learning throughout the country and overseas as well. They have appeared on over two hundred radio and TV programs. Linda and Charlie are co-authors of the widely acclaimed books: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 copies sold) Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love, and Happily Ever After...and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams. The Blooms are excited to announce the release of their fourth book, That Which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places. They live in Santa Cruz, California, near their two children and three grandchildren. To view our upcoming events and to sign up for our free newsletter, visit our website at:

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Bloom, L. (2020). Mastering the Art of Romantic Connection. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 11, 2020, from


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