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12 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Passionate Part 2

In most cases the process of giving our relationship an infusion of the juice that it’s in need of is not only pretty simple, but it’s fun as well. Here are some suggestions of a few things to revitalize a partnership and keep it healthy.

  1. Date each other againDates aren’t simply a way of vetting potential partners, nor are they exclusively for young unmarrieds. Giving each other the kind of attention that you shared in the early days of your relationship can provide a huge boost, even for those that are on the edge of burnout. Keep in mind that dating has less to do with what you do or where you go than it does with how are you are together. It’s about giving your full, undivided attention to each other. Periodically it’s a good idea to have extended dates that can last an evening, a whole day, or even longer.
  2. Go on another honeymoon. Honeymoons (without the kids, of course) aren’t just for the newly married. Taking one a year isn’t too often. Lots of people make a tradition of this practice. Our friends Ken and Maddy have taken this idea one step further and have instituted a policy of getting re-married in a different location and with a ceremonialist from a different tradition every year.
  3. Unplug! Designate what we refer to as “sacred time” and create a tech-free zone that will assure you that there will be nointerruptions.
  4. Bathe togetherSoaking in a bathtub, a hot tub is a delightful way of spending an evening together that doesn’t cost anything. Going into the tub with each other by candlelight, followed by more candlelight in the bedroom, is sure to enhance the spirit of romance.
  5. Be in service to each otherProvide loving touch by grooming, washing and/or shaving each other.
  6. Feed each other. Share a meal togetherby feeding each other every bite. Slowly. Grapes and other juicy fruits are especially tasty when consumed in this way.We know couples that have done this in restaurants, often to the surprise, and sometimes envy, of other diners.
  7. Practice extended eye contact. Spend time being connected through your eyes only, without the need to exchange words. While this may seem a bit awkward at first, but after a while you’ll almost certainly begin to settle in and experience delightful feelings. Afterwards, share what you experienced with each other.
  8. Do some private dancing. After dinner you can listen to music together, and might even want to dance. An advantage of dancing in your own home is that you can take your clothes off. You’ll know for sure that you are not roommates or business partners when you’re dancing in the nude!
  9. Exchange massages. Massage is another great way to keep romance alive. You don’t need a massage table or fancy scented oils—and you don’t have to be a professionally trained masseuse or masseur to bring a loving touch.
  10. Read love poems to each other. If you have a taste for the exotic, consider poetry from Rumi, Hafiz, or Kabir.
  11. Write and hide love notes for your partner to find. Notes stuck in books, under plates and pillows, and in the underwear drawer are sure to draw smiles of appreciation.
  12. Speak the language of love to each other. Sincerity, appreciation, tenderness, with lots of detail will take you a long way here. Connect to your feelings of love for your partner and let your heart do the talking, and do it often!

Make these interchanges the main course of your relationship. Sex can be a delicious dessert (and it’s non-fattening!). Prioritizing the intimate aspects of your relationship can work wonders when things have started to go flat. But don’t wait for that to happen. Instituting these practices into your relationship and practicing them regularly will insure that times of boredom will be rare if it occurs at all. Bringing delight and pleasure to each other is the ultimate win-win game. It’s a great example of enlightened self-interest. But don’t take our word for it try it and see for yourself. You won’t be disappointed.


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12 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Passionate Part 2


Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW are considered experts in the field of relationships. They have been married since 1972. They have both been trained as seminar leaders, therapists and relationship counselors and have been working with individuals, couples, and groups since 1975. They have been featured presenters at numerous conferences, universities, and institutions of learning throughout the country and overseas as well. They have appeared on over two hundred radio and TV programs. Linda and Charlie are co-authors of the widely acclaimed books: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 copies sold) Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love, and Happily Ever After...and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams. The Blooms are excited to announce the release of their fourth book, That Which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places. They live in Santa Cruz, California, near their two children and three grandchildren. To view our upcoming events and to sign up for our free newsletter, visit our website at:

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Bloom, L. (2019). 12 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Passionate Part 2. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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