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Kissing Adds Years to Your Life

LindaA psychological study done in Germany during the 1980’s found that the men who kissed their wives before going to work in the morning lived an average of five years longer than the husbands who didn’t kiss.

Dr. Arthur Szabo, professor of psychology at the University of Kiel, Germany collected data for two years from several dozen physicians, psychologists, and leading German insurance companies that cooperated to provide actuarial data. Szabo published his findings in a West German magazine called Selecta.

The kissing husbands earned 20 to 35 percent more money and used less sick time than their peers who left with no goodbye kiss.  In this same study, a sampling of Germany’s top 110 industrial managers shows that the 87% left home after kissing their wives saw an increase in pay and held their management positions. This same research outfit reported that not kissing one’s wife before leaving in the morning significantly increases the possibility of a car accident.

Here is Dr. Szabo’s summary of findings:

“Husbands who leave home in the morning without kissing their wives do so either because the couple has had a spat, or because they have gown apart. In either case, the husband begins the day with a negative attitude. He tends to be moody and depressed. He is disinterested in his work and surroundings. While a great many men feign indifference to their wives nearly all of them are deceiving themselves. Even if a man has ceased to love his wife, he is still influenced by her attitude toward him. Our research proves this and conclusively so. A husband who kisses his wife every morning before he goes to the office begins the day with a positive attitude. His feeling of harmony is reflected physiologically as well as mentally.”

The psychologist who analyzed the data do not believe that it is just the kissing alone that accounts for such a significant outcome between the two groups. It’s the positive attitude that is strongly associated with a healthy lifestyle. It’s quite clear from the study that the strong bond that comes from regular kissing promotes not only emotional well-being but physical health as well.

Enjoying the natural high

During the act of kissing sensations go directly to the limbic system that is the part of the brain associated with love, passion and lust. As the neural impulses travel from lips, tongue, facial muscles and skin, a love cocktail is produced in the body causing a natural high. The love cocktail is composed of neurotransmitters, and hormones including dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, adrenaline, and endorphins.

As a marriage counselor, I want those I work with to utilize the natural high that comes with a terrific kiss. I have a multifaceted approach encouraging each couple to work out the challenging issues that trouble them by learning to communicate well, negotiate for their needs, practice getting complete by using learning from their experience, apologize for causing harm, and forgiving after having been harmed. These methods clear a passageway for the fondness and affection system to flourish and for romance to become a regular feature of their partnership once again.

Regular check ins, going on dates, having fun adventures and novel experiences all work together to bring the relationship back to a place of enjoyment. By adding in the built in bonding powers of sensual delight that Mother Nature gave to us, the shift in behaviors and attitudes conspire to heal a damaged partnership and move a good relationship into the great zone.

Sincere, intentional, heart-felt kissing is an essential ingredient in that process. Kissing therapy goes a long way to restore the ingredients that may have slipped out of the daily practice due to painful arguing, disengagement, or preoccupation with work or children. To intentionally engage in more sensual kissing brings the level of affection, respect and love back to the partnership. Kissing is a sign that there is a new beginning to a glowing partnership, or a continuation of a connection characterized by attention, connection and caring.

Kissing is a communication form that can transcend words and convey a feeling of appreciation, trust, support, attachment, security and even adoration. Good morning kisses, good night kisses, greeting and leaving kisses, foreplay kisses, kisses during sex, and juicy kisses just for the hell of it, are all good.

And when it comes to kissing, more is definitely better. Kissing can restore not only emotional well-being and physical health but longevity as well. Always available if we are awake and aware to recognize the awesome benefits, we can celebrate and rejoice in nature’s glorious gift.

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Kissing Adds Years to Your Life


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Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW are considered experts in the field of relationships. They have been married since 1972. They have both been trained as seminar leaders, therapists and relationship counselors and have been working with individuals, couples, and groups since 1975. They have been featured presenters at numerous conferences, universities, and institutions of learning throughout the country and overseas as well. They have appeared on over two hundred radio and TV programs. Linda and Charlie are co-authors of the widely acclaimed books: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 copies sold) Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love, and Happily Ever After...and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams. The Blooms are excited to announce the release of their fourth book, That Which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places. They live in Santa Cruz, California, near their two children and three grandchildren. To view our upcoming events and to sign up for our free newsletter, visit our website at: www.Bloomwork.com


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APA Reference
Bloom, L. (2019). Kissing Adds Years to Your Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationship-skills/2019/04/kissing-adds-years-to-your-life/

 

Last updated: 5 Apr 2019
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