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Living from Our Core Values

Linda: Values is defined as a person’s principles or standards of behavior; ones judgment of what is important in life. Living from our values is closely related to living in integrity. Many people think of integrity as being honest, and that is so, but there is so much more. Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one knows. Integrity is living a life where what we think, feel, say, and do are all lined up as one. When we know ourselves at a deep level, which includes knowing our most important values, we are positioned well to live a life of integrity.

Love is a powerful force, but to marry for love alone, without a through examination of the core values of each of us, the love will not be enough to sustain the partnership over time. And to be eligible for an exemplary relationship, it is essential to be in touch with our deepest values, and once we know what those values, to live our life based in them.

Here are some examples of these core values:

Acceptance

Acknowledgment                  

Adventure

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty                                                  

Being the Best

Challenge

Commitment

Communication

Compassion

Confidence       

Contribution (Making A Difference)                

Courage                     

Creativity

Emotional Connection

Empathy

Excellence                                

Excitement       

Expression

Faith                    

Family Connection                                      

Freedom                                                      

Fulfillment

Fun Generosity                                                     

Growth                                                         

Happiness                                                      

Health

Honesty

Humility

Humor

Impeccability

Independence

Integrity

Intelligence

Justice

Learning

Love

Loving-kindness

Openness

Passion

Patience

Perseverance

Personal Power

Power

Play

Resourcefulness       

Respect

Responsibility           

Security

Self-discipline Service

Skillful Service (Skillful Action)

Spiritual Connection

Strength

Support

Vulnerability    

Wholeheartedness

Do you know your most important values? And are you living in accordance with them? You could take a few minutes right now to do a simple exercise and write down what you discover. I_________________ (name) know that my top five values are ____________________________________that the purpose of my life is to:_______________________________________________.

Our priorities, and how we spend our time, reflect our values. The values that inform our life may be expressed in our career and the way we make our living, but are not necessarily limited to that part of our life. It could be, for instance, that a woman has as her core value, beauty. She dedicates a large segment of her life to manifesting beauty all around her by creating lovely gardens and a gracious, elegant home. Her values may not be expressed in her profession, but she makes a life in accord with her deepest values. Or he may feel that his values are not being utilized in his workplace, but commits to hobbies or volunteer work that enable him to express them. It is being in touch with our passion and gifts in all areas of our life, and then giving of those gifts to the world, that allows for the self-expression that brings the highest levels of well-being.

Abraham Maslow asserts that self-actualized people always, without exception, have a burning value at their core that informs their life’s purpose. Knowing our core values before we choose our partner is a huge advantage in terms of compatibility. When both members of the couple know the values that are most important to them, and are living from them, they are positioned well to have a stable, authentic and vibrant relationship.

 


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Living from Our Core Values

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Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW are considered experts in the field of relationships. They have been married since 1972. They have both been trained as seminar leaders, therapists and relationship counselors and have been working with individuals, couples, and groups since 1975. They have been featured presenters at numerous conferences, universities, and institutions of learning throughout the country and overseas as well. They have appeared on over two hundred radio and TV programs. Linda and Charlie are co-authors of the widely acclaimed books: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 copies sold) Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love, and Happily Ever After...and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams. The Blooms are excited to announce the release of their fourth book, That Which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places. They live in Santa Cruz, California, near their two children and three grandchildren. To view our upcoming events and to sign up for our free newsletter, visit our website at: www.Bloomwork.com


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APA Reference
Bloom, L. (2018). Living from Our Core Values. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 16, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationship-skills/2018/03/living-from-our-core-values/

 

Last updated: 28 Mar 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 28 Mar 2018
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