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Commitment

Making Room for it All – Part 1

“You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it. That is why you must read, that is why you must look at he skies, that is why you must sing and dance, and write poems and suffer, and understand, for all that is life.” --J. Krishnamurti

Linda: People these days are going into marriage with huge expectations of finding fulfillment. That is a worthy goal, but so many are...
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Love Can Turn The Ordinary into The Extraordinary

Your relationship can be a spiritual sanctuary.


Linda: Jim Williams spent over four decades of his life in search of something that would fulfill his longing to contribute to humanity, share his numerous gifts with others and satisfy his quest for spiritual fulfillment. Always a gifted and diligent student, he easily got accepted into medical school and has been a practicing pediatrician for over forty years.  A devout Catholic, Jim became increasingly immersed in the church and...
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Commitment

Myth: My Jealousy Shows How Much I Love My Partner

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Learning to love with a light touch.
Linda: The word jealous comes from the Greek “jeal” a valued possession that is in danger. This idea suggests that the possession requires action to be taken to protect it. It is the wise and mature person who understands when jealousy is present. Such turbulent feelings are our cue to look inside to find the places we feel weak and inadequate in order...
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Commitment

Self-referential Is Being Internally Self Referenced

Unhooking from the need for approval.
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Linda: There is a tendency on the part of those in strong relationships, that while they are able to coordinate and collaborate with their partner, they can also trust their inner experience. They listen and take influence, but they know who they are, what they want, and are guided in their choices by that clarity. While they are respectful of conventional wisdom, and open...
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Commitment

Got Loyalty?

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Linda: defines loyalty as “faithfulness to commitments or obligations”. I much prefer to think of loyalty in terms of commitments that are freely chosen, rather than obligations that have associations that are heavy, and bring up fears about  being trapped. Because loyalty has so many positive benefits, it is a shame to be discouraged by the negative associations that can get in our way of moving...
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Commitment

Balancing the Commitment to Self and Other

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Linda: There is an old Buddhist story about a man who wanted to drink crystal clear water. He was a rich man, who owned a lot of property. One day he gathered his workers together and set out for that part of his land where he thought it likely that there would be water. Arriving at the designated spot they began to dig. Sure enough, at ten...
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Commitment

The Myth of Being Unlovable Part 2

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Linda: Examining all of our myths frees us to go on to become more loving people and to enjoy loving relationships, without doubt, anguish, and confusion that the false beliefs regularly promote. To bust the myth of being unlovable, these are steps toward radical self-acceptance. See if you can come up with additions to those listed below that will serve you on your journey to wholeness.
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Commitment

The Myth of Being Unlovable-Part 1

Linda: When we are feeling unloved, our mind makes up a story about how unlovable we are, filling in details about our supposed faults: not being attractive enough, not being intelligent enough, not being interesting enough, and not being professionally accomplished enough are all popular explanations in the “not enough” realm. And then there is the “too much” realm. I’m too much trouble, too much drama, too sensitive, too neurotic, too angry, too needy, too flawed,...
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