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Archives for January, 2015

Commitment

Consider These Terms of Engagement Before Having Your Next Argument

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 With most couples, it’s not a matter of “if” there is another argument, but “when”. Whether you call it an argument, a difference of opinion, a conflict, a quarrel, a row, a misunderstanding, a squabble, a spat, or any one of a number of other synonyms or euphemisms, almost all couples have them. And those that say they don’t are either in denial, lying, or exceptionally evolved. There...
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Addiction

Schismo….what?

Anger is contagious and so is goodwill.


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Schismogenesis. It’s a term that you’re not likely to have heard very often, unless you’re studying esoteric words for a spelling bee that you’re planning to enter, or if you’re a graduate student or researcher in anthropology. It was coined in 1935 by Gregory Bateson, who was married to Margaret Mead, who were two of the most influential and highly regarded...
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Addiction

Is Technoference Wrecking Your Love Life?

Even though you may not have ever heard the word, chances are, you’ve already figured out what it means. And chances also are that you’ll be hearing a lot more about it in the future. That’s because a preoccupation with electronic devices and data is undermining essential aspects of our lives particularly those that strengthen and enhance physical, emotional, and spiritual health and well being. These aspects tend to be the first things that get...
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Attraction

How to Rebalance an Out-of-balanced Life

Looking at the titles of the lead articles that are currently featured prominently on the front cover of a lot of popular magazines, it’s hard not to notice the proliferation of pieces that have to do with the importance of living a balanced life. These articles usually warn the reader of the dangers of imbalance and often provide suggestions for how to organize your time in ways that are designed to solve the problems caused...
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Attraction

Do You Dare to Pop This Question?

Be careful what you ask, you may get an answer.


After an evening of sharing the living room sofa together while they watched a romantic movie, Brandon turned to his partner Kim, to whom he’d been married for nearly thirty years and asked, “If you met me today, would you still want to marry me?”. As you might have guessed, this question was actually a bid for reassurance from Kim that she still found him attractive...
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General

Marriage Preparation

On the job training.


There probably aren’t many people who haven’t heard the words “marriages take a lot of work”. This is a good thing to be aware of prior to making a marital commitment. Knowing that that’s the way it is, minimizes the likelihood of feeling surprised or broad-sided when the inevitable breakdowns occur. But what is also a good thing to be aware of is what the work is that successful marriages require. And...
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