Archives for September, 2013

Commitment

Don’t Underestimate the Value of Life’s Little (and not-so little) Crises

Another Bleeping Growth Opportunity!


Resilience has to do with the capacity to recover, learn, and grow from the experience of adversity. Resilience isn't acquired or inherited, but is developed in the process of surviving life's inevitable and often unanticipated difficulties and coming through these experiences with greater wisdom, compassion, understanding, and maturity. There doesn't seem to be any way of cultivating these qualities that doesn't involve at least some degree of stress and...
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Attraction

Why Introverts and Extroverts Attract Each Other

Finding someone like yourself may not be such a good idea.

My friend Ted is a musician. He’s kind of a quiet with a great sense of humor. He enjoys getting together with friends, but not too many at a time, and his fuse is pretty short when it comes to being with large groups of people. He’s the guy that disappears from a party all of a sudden. One minute he’s here,...
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Attraction

Why Settle For Something Good?

Some characteristics of great organizations.

In his book Good to Great, which has become a classic in the field of leadership and organizational development, Jim Collins speaks about what it takes for a good company to become a great one. About ten pages into the book it became apparent to me that the very same principles apply to all committed partnerships. Marriage is an organization in which there are two CEO’s who share power, each of...
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Commitment

Breaking the Cycle of Loneliness

An antidote to disconnection.

Mira: When I fell in love with Joel, I had the romantic notion that he would rescue me from my life-long unhappiness and I would never feel lonely again. I had grown up as an only child, and was not close with my parents. I spent a great deal of time alone and longing to be recognized, seen, and heard.

 Joel: I grew up with three siblings, and since my family never had...
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Boredom

Do Relationships Really Have To Be This Hard?

One of the most frequent questions that we hear from people is “Why is it that creating good relationships requires so much work? If it’s so natural for us to love one another, shouldn’t it be easier than this?” To paraphrase a former president, I can feel their pain. In fact I’ve asked the same question myself. Many times. The great poet Rainer Maria Rilke, knew and acknowledged this truth when he wrote, nearly 100...
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Commitment

Can I Give You Some Feedback?

If this question makes you feel like running for the nearest exit, it's not surprising. When most of us hear the word "feedback" we expect that what will be coming next is one or more of the following: judgments, advice, opinions, or maybe "constructive criticism". The unspoken belief in offering this "help" is that you (the listener) don't really know what you "should" do or say, how you should do it, or even what's good...
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Conflict

Shedding Light on a Dark Subject



USC’s MSW Programs Blog Day.

This Tuesday, September 10, the International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) is sponsoring World Suicide Prevention Day. We applaud the IASP for drawing attention to what has become a “silent crisis” and bringing this issue out of the closet. It would not be an exaggeration to state that the suicide rate in the US has reached epidemic proportions.

Here are some striking facts:
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Attraction

The “C” Word

One of the most frequently asked questions we hear from people (mostly women) these days is: "What is it about men and commitment?" If you look closely at this question you might notice a few things about it. First of all, it's not actually a question, but rather an assertion with a question mark at the end of it. It presumes that there is a problem that men have with commitment specifically with regard to...
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