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Archives for July, 2013

Attraction

Are You My Soul Mate?

Some ways to find out.


Many people believe that there is a “special person out there waiting for me”, and my job is to find him or her so that we can spend the rest of our lives in bliss. This is a particularly popular and seductive idea because it suggests that once I’ve located the person of my dreams, the work is over. It also suggests that there is only one person with whom I...
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Attraction

Are All the Good Men/Women Already Taken?

Do these 6 things and find out.


Charlie and I have heard vast numbers of people making this claim over the years. My point of view is it only takes one. You may have to kiss a few frogs in the process but that’s a small price to pay for what could be a great outcome. It is true however, finding a qualified partner can be a daunting challenge. I'll be the first to admit that there...
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Boredom

The Price of Success

A Cautionary Tail


As you probably know, J. Paul Getty was one of the wealthiest and most successful American industrialists in history. Fiercely ambitious from an early age, Getty made his first million at age 23 in 1916. He later went on to found the Getty oil company. In 1957 Fortune magazine named him the richest living American and in 1966, the Guinness Book of Records named him as the world’s richest private citizen.

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Boredom

The Epidemic of Gray Divorces

Barbara and Jack got married twenty-four years ago. Barbara is fifty-one and Jack is fifty-two. Their oldest daughter is in college and their younger daughter, a high school senior.  Over the years Barbara and Jack have drifted apart, avoiding each other in an attempt to keep the bickering to a minimum. Barbara’s numerous efforts to bring about more emotional closeness have been mostly unsuccessful. In her frustration, she has turned to her sister and women...
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Communication

The Three Magic Words in Relationships

If the three magic words in real estate are location, location, location, then the three magic words in relationships are communication, communication, communication. But just as some locations are more desirable than others, some types of communication are more fruitful than others. More talking doesn’t necessarily translate into better outcomes. Sometimes, as the song goes, the words just get in the way.

Although we tend to think of good communicators as being good speakers, speaking is...
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Attraction

I Attracted the Right Person, Now What?


Lately there’s been a lot of attention paid to the Law of Attraction. For those of you who have been living in a cave for the past few years, simply put, this phrase refers to the idea that by intensely focusing your attention on what you want and keeping “negative” thoughts having to do with fear, anger, doubt, guilt, etc. out of your consciousness, you will draw into your life whatever it is that you...
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Betrayal

7 Steps to Healing Broken Trust

Betrayal: It’s Not Just About Infidelity


Few people would argue with the idea that honesty is the best policy. Policies however are not always adhered to, even those that we believe in and support. Regardless of how much we may desire to live a life of integrity in which we “walk the talk” and live in accordance with our inner principles, it’s likely that there will be times that we miss the mark....
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Communication

Don’t Use These Three Words

 Sometimes it Doesn’t Pay to be Right


“You’re being defensive!” If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of these words, you know that the last thing that you feel like doing upon hearing them is to drop your guard and open your heart. Ironically, that’s probably exactly what the person delivering these words is trying to get you to do.

If you weren’t being defensive before you heard this accusation (and it is usually spoken accusatorially),...
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Communication

For Better or Worse Until…

“And they lived happily ever after.”


Who would have ever thought that six harmless words could lead to so much disappointment? Just think of the number of times that you were told stores that involved two lovers who after rising above many hardships and ordeals, finally merging their hearts as one and riding off into the sunset together to live in the splendor of love’s eternal bliss.

Yeah, right.

Time and experience makes us all wiser, or hopefully...
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