Myths not to live by
True or false:
Couples with great relationships don’t fight
Most people expect too much from marriage
All the good men/women are already taken
Love can heal all wounds
If my partner were more like me we’d have a better relationship
These are some examples of beliefs that are commonly-held held by many people.
The best predictor of the future is not necessarily the past.
If this myth were true, most of us would be doomed to relationship hell.
One of the things that I notice about successful couples is that nearly all of them demonstrate a capacity to not only see the beauty and goodness in each other,
“He who isn’t busy being born is busy dying.” Bob Dylan
Linda: There’s a story (it may be apocryphal but it’s a great story anyway) about a frog being put in a beaker of boiling water.
Giving of ourselves is giving to ourselves.
“Conscious perfect love is when you love someone so completely that you wish only for your beloved’s self realization. That they are given the space and the wherewithal to discover who they are without thought of reciprocation or reward for oneself.” ~ A.E.
5 Guidelines to Handling Differences Effectively
The factor that is most likely to predispose a couple to have an enduring successful relationship is:
Shared interests in common
Ability to avoid or prevent intense emotional conflict
Ability to manage differences effectively
Shared political views
Strong bonds of affection established early in the relationship.