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Boredom

Raise the Heat in Your Relationship This Summer

Every year, Charlie and I take two summer vacations-one with our kids and grandchildren, and one just with each other. They don't have to be real long, just long enough to get a clean break from our day-to-day lives. These vacations each provide us with very different experiences, and we love them both. But it's the one we take by ourselves that gives us the time to reflect together on where we are and where...
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Communication

You Can Take It with You But You Might Not Want To.

Samuel Johnson once said that there is something about facing the end of life that tends to focus one's attention, particularly on those aspects of life that we may previously have ignored, denied, or put off. Inevitably there comes a time when the debts from all of this procrastination come due; and the piper must be paid, with interest and penalty fees. The cost of deferring our concerns and true feelings until "later" can be...
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Communication

Not Enough Time? Don’t Take It Personally

The Hidden Causes of the Work/Family Conflict
Laura: “Now that I am back to work full time, I get up at 5:00 to get the kid’s lunches ready. I often find myself doing laundry at 10:00 Last week I was picking up groceries at the supermarket at 11:00 , and my stomach is churning while driving to the day care center because I don’t want to be charged the late pick-up fee. I’m so...
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Boredom

The Break That Can Save Your Marriage

Jesse, our first born, was three years old before I was willing to leave him for a vacation with my husband, Charlie. To say that I had been an obsessed, overprotective, neurotic, overwhelmed mother well, just about right. My parents, who lived over four hundred miles away, were the only other people with whom I would entrust my baby. I wasn't totally wacko, but pretty close.

Our destination was Martha's Vineyard. On our first night,...
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Boredom

Four Tips For Dealing With Marital Boredom

Yes, it can be a real problem to be bored with one's spouse. It's a frequently voiced complaint that therapists hear from their clients. Fortunately, this condition can usually be easily fixed. Unfortunately, the source of the problem is generally in the last place that you want to look. That would be at yourself. The very things that initially attracted us to our partner can sometimes later on be a source of irritation. For example...
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