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with Tarra Bates-Duford, Ph.D., MFT

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Why Do We Want the People We Can’t Have? 9 Reasons

I am sure we can all remember being a child and wanting something our parents said we could not have, yet after being denied, we wanted it even more.

Consider this, you have a teenage daughter and as a parent you really dislike her bad boy boyfriend, however, the more you try to discourage the relationship the more she seems to want to be with him. The same response can occur with adults.

Unfortunately, despite continual discouragement and...

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Trypophobia- Fear of Holes

Trypophobia refers to an intense, irrational fear, or anxiety associated with irregular patterns or clusters of small holes or bumps. Trypophobia is often referred to as repetitive pattern phobia. It is a little known phobia that typically refers to the fear of clustered holes, such as aerated chocolate, crumpets, honeycombs, coral reefs, lotus flowers, etc. Sufferers experience a visceral reaction to often non-threatening patterns found on animals, flowers, etc., leading feelings like nausea, light headedness, shortness...

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Personality Disorders: When Opposites Attract

By now, many of us have taken notice of the fact that individuals with differing personality disorders are often appear drawn to each other. Interestingly, but all too commonly one person with a personality disorder attracts someone with a different type of personality disorder, both parties have personality disorders (PDs)--but on opposite ends of the spectrum. People that suffer from personality disorders typically are attracted to others with personality disorders in which the disorder is complementary and...

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Dating The Same Type of Person: 13 Types

Dating and relationships can be a little tricky for many of us, specifically, for those that have a “type”. Perhaps you fall for the bad guy type, the intellectual, the comic, the free spirited, or the hot girl. You may even have a physical type, such as, light eyes, dark eyes, red hair, brunette, tanned skin, dark skin, light skinned, or a preference with regards to body type and shaping. After years of dating and relationship experience...

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Sexual Addiction: Male and Female Differences

Sexual addiction is described as a progressive obsession with engaging in sexual acts, sexual thoughts, or having an abnormally intense sex drive. Often, the lives of those with sexual addiction are plagued with dominating thoughts of sex or having sex. Sexual addiction like most other addictions can interfere with daily functioning, causing a significant negative impact on the addict, and those that love him/her as the disorder progresses. Unfortunately, like other addictions the addict must “use more”,...

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Trauma and Psychogenic Seizures: 12 Potential Causes

Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES) can be one of the most difficult topics to discuss both for the patient as well as the health care provider. It is estimated that PNES are diagnosed in 20 to 30% of patients seen at epilepsy centers for intractable seizures. The diagnosis of PNES is much more common than most people would think, in actuality, PNES is pretty common. Surprisingly, almost 25% of individuals diagnosed with epilepsy that are not responding to...

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Blind Family Loyalties: 7 Types

Family loyalty refers to the feelings of mutually shared obligations, responsibilities, commitment, and closeness that exist among family members (, parents and children, between siblings, grandparents and grandchildren, and other close family members). Not surprisingly, loyalty is not a character trait we value in just our family members; we also seek the same and or similar traits in others that are close to us, like our friends. Not only are we drawn to loyalty traits in...

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Understanding Suicide: My Interview with HopeLine, Inc.

Suicide is the conscious act of ending one's own life.

It is often used to end pronounced emotional, psychological, or physical pain. It is sometimes a way for people to escape pain or suffering that is perceived to be overwhelming.

There is no single cause for suicide.

It most often occurs when stressors exceed current coping abilities for someone struggling with significant mental or physical health conditions. Suicide occurs almost twice as often as murder. Each year, about 36,000 people...

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Holding A Grudge: 5 Tips For Letting Go

Sometimes, the reasons we hold a grudge are not always clear; to the person we hold the grudge against or even ourselves. Often we hold onto our grudges unwillingly, while wishing we could drop them and live freshly and happily in the present.

Many of us want to release and let go of the heavy, negative baggage we call grudges, however, this is not easy to do. Holding a grudge can consume a lot of our physical, emotional, and...

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Ending A Friendship: 10 Signs You May Need to End the Friendship

Making a new friend can be one of the most rewarding things we can do in our lifetime. Friendships both enhance and enrich our lives.

Early friendships play a vital role because they occur while key developmental changes are taking place. Developing friendships not only teach us some important life skills but also shape our life “narrative.”

Some friendships can be long and enduring; adjusting to personal, environmental, emotional, and physical changes, while some friendships can be short...