Relationship Corner
with Tarra Bates-Duford, Ph.D., MFT

Family, Mental Health, Relationships, Support. Treatment

Sexual Pasts: 7 Things to Consider Before Disclosure

In my practice, I often receive questions related to the amount and type of information that is appropriate to disclose during the course of a romantic relationship. A dilemma we all struggle with, to some degree or another, is telling a potential partner about our sexual past. We all enter relationships with a past. Women considerably more than men will question how much of their sexual past appropriate to share in intimate relationships. How much does a...

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Romantic Relationships and Mental Illness: 5 Potential Reactions

Dating and relationships can be difficult for anyone: what to wear, what to say, or what to do, are all common grievances in the dating scene. Once we're in a committed relationship, communication problems, trust issues, and conflict can arise, but those with a mental health concerns have an added complication and may need to approach dating differently.

Living with a severe and persistent mental health condition can be challenging for anyone, however, when you add the...

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Fearing Adulthood: 8 Potential Reasons

From the time we are children many of us fantasize about what it would be like to be an adult, , ability to do whatever we want, eat whatever we want, stay up as late as we want, go out as much as we want, fall in love and live happily ever after, etc. Most children view the adult phase of life as a phase without restrictions, however, many adults have learned that this couldn’t be...

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Relationship Breakup: 11 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Functioning

Relationship breakups can be one of the most painful and distressing experiences of our life. Unfortunately, following a breakup some of us are flooded with the most useful and often ridiculous advice from others regarding how we “should be dealing with the breakup”. Interestingly, not all the advice we receive are from close personal friends and family but acquaintances, onlookers, and even strangers. As with matters of the heart there is no real answer surrounding how to manage...

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#Me Too: 15 Reasons Why Survivors Do Not Report Sexual Assault


Many of us have seen or heard about the hashtag #Me Too, however, many of us failed to realize this was a movement created more than 10 years ago in Harlem, NY. This movement was created to bring awareness of sexual assaults against people of color living in underprivileged communities. In October of 2017, “Me Too” started being used as a two-word hashtag on social media to help demonstrate the widespread prevalence of sexual assault and...

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Female vs Male Friendships: 10 Key Differences

Most friendships typically form for the same reasons, , shared interests, support, and companionship. However, the type of relationship appears to differ between male and female relationships.

Men, unlike women, tend to prefer more activity-based friendships while women tend to prefer more friendships relationships. Although, the dynamics of male-male friendships and female-female friendships are more similar than they are different, there remains a difference in how the genders view and engage in friendships. While one is more casual...

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Changes in Intimacy After Dementia: 10 Changes

There is no denying dementia causes significant changes in the life of the sufferer. Unfortunately, the first thing that comes to mind for most people when they consider the topic of dementia includes memory changes and confusion, however, romantic relationships can also be impacted. Dementia can affect both emotional, romantic, and physical connectedness. Often changes to romantic relationships can be difficult to discuss as most people do not feel comfortable discussing issues or problems in their intimate...

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Why Do We Want the People We Can’t Have? 9 Reasons

I am sure we can all remember being a child and wanting something our parents said we could not have, yet after being denied, we wanted it even more.

Consider this, you have a teenage daughter and as a parent you really dislike her bad boy boyfriend, however, the more you try to discourage the relationship the more she seems to want to be with him. The same response can occur with adults.

Unfortunately, despite continual discouragement and...

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Trypophobia- Fear of Holes

Trypophobia refers to an intense, irrational fear, or anxiety associated with irregular patterns or clusters of small holes or bumps. Trypophobia is often referred to as repetitive pattern phobia. It is a little known phobia that typically refers to the fear of clustered holes, such as aerated chocolate, crumpets, honeycombs, coral reefs, lotus flowers, etc. Sufferers experience a visceral reaction to often non-threatening patterns found on animals, flowers, etc., leading feelings like nausea, light headedness, shortness...

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Personality Disorders: When Opposites Attract

By now, many of us have taken notice of the fact that individuals with differing personality disorders are often appear drawn to each other. Interestingly, but all too commonly one person with a personality disorder attracts someone with a different type of personality disorder, both parties have personality disorders (PDs)--but on opposite ends of the spectrum. People that suffer from personality disorders typically are attracted to others with personality disorders in which the disorder is complementary and...