2 thoughts on “Harmful Family Lies, Secrets, and Legacies

  • August 26, 2019 at 11:28 am

    Even in a room full of people – I feel alone almost invisible even as an adult. Secrets, lies, guilt were not words I heard as a child much; but I dont recall much before 5th grade at all.

    It was easy to disappear in a large family like mine – my mother delivered 10 children from age of 16 – 40. All the while being an Air Force officers wife which required relocating every 2 years any where in the world. It was not until I had my first born at 21, the layers of secrets began unraveling and exposing the pain buried so deep starting with my own parents deception and selfishness.

    As these tragic events and cover ups unfold little by little as I begin relentless questioning to them and my older siblings-I shuddered thinking could I cope with a new reality? These secrets and lies I thought I was stable to process altered not only my life forever and how I see the world; but how I ruined my own children’s lives over compensating for my own warped sense of new reality.

    I am not a Narcissistic but married an only child who also loves Gaslighting me and keeping me off balance.
    I am not Depressed but angry
    I am Gaslighting myself daily and need help.

    • September 24, 2019 at 12:17 am

      Dear Ramona,

      I understand you saying “I am not depressed but angry” as I am the same way, years and years after learning of all the lies I’ve been told and it is now continuing through to the next generation who are being lied to the same way. Honesty, upfront, saves everyone’s time.


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