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Dissociative Disorder: 8 Common Signs

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  1. Dissociative Disorder is a broad-based classification which includes the sub-category of Dissociative Identity Disorder (“Multiple Personalities”), correct?

  2. I am sorry to say that this is me. Difficulty concentrating, spacing out, unable to respond properly (mentally and verbally) in stressful situations, absent minded, poor relationship skills in work and at home. Globus Hystericus, aches and pains, headaches (although less as I grow older). Long period of physical and emotional abuse as a child.
    Unfortunately, I have also been diagnosed as having dyslexia, and online personality tests show INTJ schizoid. Trouble is, how do I know which is the real cause of my problems? NHS can’t help, that’s for sure.

  3. This article has been an eye-opener for me; it’s answered many questions, some of which I didn’t even know I had. It makes me rather sad too, though, to think that I may have suffered from something like DD all these years. Part of that, I guess, is the stigma towards mental illness that unfortunately still exists out there.

    A few years back, I was diagnosed with Bipolar II disorder, which I may in fact have; but it looks like the criteria for DD is there as well. All this time, I thought I just had an overactive imagination and in fact was made to feel ashamed of myself for “daydreaming” as a kid. It definitely WAS an escape at times, since there were times when reality just purely sucked. But I can feel for Ruth.

  4. Do people with dissociative disorder experience extreme body pain? How to addrrsss it?

    • I severely dissociate. I can spend hours immersed in a “play” created in my mind. I walk into walls. Have little sensation of temperature, pain, or touch. I can be so disconnected from myself that I don’t know where I am or exactly how I got there. I don’t have “DID”. I do have an extraordinary ability to disappear into my own mind, however.

  5. I have at least six of those eight, especially the daydreaming and unwillingness to deal with reality. Since my teens (I will be 70 this September) I have spent most of my time daydreaming. I have been fired at least twice because I was standing in the middle of a room, once even for two hours, just daydreaming. I have a therapist who wants to make me speak up and do things for myself (instead of just letting things happen). In some ways she may be right, but I believe that she does not understand how much I am addicted to daydreaming and avoiding conflicts, even if I end up losing my own money. I go through life helping others get their way even if I knwo that I end up losing something.

  6. “Typically, once a person with Dissociative Disorder understands and accepts his or her diagnosis, the goal becomes reintegration (or unification) of the various personality states.”

    I have carried a diagnosis of dissociative disorder for 24 years now. Never once in all of that time of therapy has “reintegration” been mentioned or discussed. Perhaps that is because I do not have dissociative identity disorder. The symptoms do tend to wax and wane in direct proportion to the stressors in my life. I am curious, how does one work towards unification when there are no distinct personalities?

  7. Can your have detachment without having multiple personalities? When with an abusive person, I can hide myself within myself. I play a role until it’s safe again to be me.

    When I was a kid, I lost myself, it took me a while to find myself again. I didn’t know what I wanted and what I liked because the only way to lie to my parents was to believe my own lie about who I was.

    Now that I am an adult. I’ve had time to find myself again and I find it hard to hide. The transition between hiding and coming back isn’t easy, but if I need to for short periods, I can hide myself to myself so the actor that believes her lie can play again.

    I’m fully conscious of the process and the actor is almost always the same. She’s the half autistic person who doesn’t get what’s happening socially and doesn’t question, she’s oblivious to any subject that could cause a crisis: opinions, sex, emotions. They enter by one ear and go out by the other… kind of like a color blind person can hear about colors but not perceive them. When I hide within myself, it’s always this actor that comes out, I don’t have another one.

    Sometimes I say things that sound more like the actor and I catch it. Sometimes I catch it too late.

    I’m not sure the end goal would be to integrate the actor. The actor isn’t real. The goal would be to have more control over the actor so it can be used even more efficiently in abusive situations or just drop the actor and find other coping mechanisms for these situations. I tend to get out of situations very quickly, but sometimes if it’s at work or within a group, you want to finish a project before leaving or wait until you find another job/team.

  8. I have been working with a psychiatrist since 1994, off and on, and have several diagnosis. Bi Polar, Chronic Depressive, PTSD, and ADHD.

    The most recent was PTSD.

    I don’t respond well to medications and my doctor and I usually disagree strongly on this point.

    How would I go about suggesting to my doctor that I might have Dissociative Disorder?

    This seems to fit my symptoms more than other the other things.

    My worst symptoms is severe social anxiety that makes is impossible for me to hold down a job. I would very much like to correct this!

    Thank you for posting the article.

  9. Nice one Tu …For the multiples… Before I was diagnosed as PTSD, I did the “hermit crab” scuttling from one persona to another to fit my fragile ego/ ass into the latest..well I guess it was some sort of “pose”. I was as slick as hell and as genuine and brittle as pyrites…and I hated myself…..
    Its not possible to succeed at anything if you feel this way..not even suicide which stalled when I realised that the conjuction of thought and action threw up the absurd idea that I’d been there before, though the memory was absent..Suddenly there was a schism between nature and nurture, which factor had been appalling…
    I share my ignorance with a therapist who given the facts “should have known better” , and so this journey to selfhood may have been truncated by better expertise, but the fight to achieve authenticity brought out the very best in me, so let it be…
    Soo guys n gals ..try for your best..
    Its just You Hoo…As designed by That Which is Perfect and which never designed a failure…

  10. How does this fit with personality disorders ? There seems to be a very significant overlap. People close to me have been diagnosed with narcissistic/borderline personality disorders, with diagnoses confirmed over several decades by a number of independent psychiatrists. The features of dissociative disorders are all present, even though these people function very well in certain contexts, particularly professionally, for a lot of the time with disordered behaviour and periodic breakdowns being observed usually only by certain close family members (myself in particular). There is no particular suggestion of marked abuse in childhood, but they are very sensitive highly intelligent people with clear prolonged overpraising and overprotecting and idealisation on the part of their parents/grandparents.

 

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