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with Tarra Bates-Duford, Ph.D., MFT

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Imposter Syndrome: Impact on Black Women

The term “imposter syndrome” was coined by psychologists Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes in 1978 to describe an “internal experience of intellectual phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” Imposter syndrome creates feeling of doubt, unworthiness, and fraudulence

Impostor syndrome causes those experiencing the syndrome to doubt their achievements, intellect, and fear that others will expose them as fraudulent. This condition can affect anyone,...

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My Mother’s Illness

Growing up I did not understand why my mother would take frequent trips or vacations without me. I thought I needed to behave better, have higher grades, or avoid stressing her out so she would not take so many trips. She rarely smiled, but when she did it lit up a room. Her smiles were few and far between, so I made it a personal goal to make her smile more often. As I reflect on...

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Fearing Commitment: 12 Signs

In terms of romantic relationships, commitment can be defined as a dedication to a particular person, action, or cause. Commitments may be made willingly or unwillingly, and a fear of commitment can affect an individual's life in a variety of ways. Commitment is a broad term, but it generally comes down to dedicating one’s self to something for a long time, whether it’s a job, a goal, activity, or a relationship. Although, the term "commitment issues"...

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Surviving The Loss of A Child

The death of a child is often described as the most painful experience a family can endure; it is the ultimate tragedy. Hopes and dreams for the future are no longer defined. As parents, we often have a vision for the future of our child, we want them to be happy, succeed, have children of their own, and lead a meaningful life. Death ends the vision of a life unfulfilled, leaving in its wake many “what...

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Schizophrenia & Family Support: 5 Essential Benefits

Schizophrenia is characterized as a serious mental health disorder in which people interpret reality abnormally. The disorder involves a range of problems with thinking (cognition), behavior and emotions. For some, schizophrenia may result in a combination of hallucinations, delusions, extremely disordered thinking and behavior that impairs daily functioning, which can be disabling. Although, people with schizophrenia will require lifelong treatment, proper treatment can assist with the stabilization of symptoms.


Symptoms of schizophrenia can vary in type and...

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After the Affair: 10 Tips for Rebuilding a Marriage

Infidelity can shatter even the strongest relationship, leaving behind feelings of betrayal, sadness, guilt, uncertainty, and anger. For the married couples who experienced infidelity in their relationship it can be extremely difficulty to both forgive as well as overcome. Although, it may be difficult for partners that have been cheated on to forgive or get beyond the affair once it has been discovered or revealed, it is possible. Partners that are able to put the hurt and...

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Toxic Relationships Revisited: 32 Signs

The start of a new relationship can feel exhilarating for partners, many convinced they have found their perfect match. Unfortunately, the honeymoon period of a new relationship often hides or distorts what lies ahead. Many partners fail to see or overlook the warning signs that their potential partner may not be the best person for them. Therefore, before partners see the signs that their relationship may be toxic, it has escalated into something that some partners...

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Borderline Personality Disorder: 15 Familial Challenges

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental health condition that often impacts the way the individual thinks and feels about themselves and others. As a result of the distorted thinking and feelings, persons with BPD experience challenges in their everyday life, such as disruptions in functioning, cognition, relationships, etc. Distortion also includes negative or inflated self-image, difficulty managing emotions and behavior, and a pattern of unstable relationships. Unfortunately, people that struggle with BPD give off conflicting...

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Stalking: 17 Signs

Stalking is defined as the willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassing of another person that creates fear, sadness, anxiety and threatens the safety of the other person. Someone may stalk you by following, calling, texting, sending messages over social media, showing up at your place of work, home, or repeatedly showing up at places you are known to go. A person’s behavior is considered stalking if it creates fear or you have made requests from...