4 thoughts on “The Powerful Effect of Love Bombing and Intermittent Reinforcement on Children of Narcissists

  • July 31, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Thanks for sharing this today. I can now say I have experienced both gas lighting and love bombing in the last 8 months in my life. I am not proud of it and sure wish I did not get involved with the other parties to experience it, but am now better prepared for it and can disengage with these situations in the future sooner than later.

  • August 1, 2017 at 9:34 am

    Thank you for this! I can send you a picture of my Ex as the definition of what you are writing. How, as the other parent, do you combat this when you see it happening in your children? He buys them cars, rents them apartments and though they see it, they say they are aware of it but why not take the money from him? They don’t see it as a way to control their every move to validate his illness. I say nothing because they get defensive. It is so hard to sit back and watch. Please keep writing on how to save those who are snarled in the web of narcissistic love.

  • August 1, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    We are a grassroots organization of healthy parents who married and had children with a narcissistic (borderline) personality disordered parent. After divorcing the NPD, we have been fighting to save our children from our ex-partners. We represent approximately 22 million men and women who continue to try to free our children despite the staggering lack of support from law enforcement, child protective services and family courts. Family courts consistently place our children with the abuser because they do not recognize trauma, psychological control (abuse and neglect), the impact on child development, or how dangerous these parents are. Family court is the gatekeeper, but they are clueless. Kay A. Johnson; Executive Director

  • August 2, 2017 at 2:03 pm

    This was such a good article. It helped me a lot in assessing exactly what happened to my life, in that I see how I was not exactly co-dependent – but was craving “connection.” The article helped me see how it might be easy to mistake flattery and recognition for connection – when they are actually different. I will be reading this article again more than once b/c it presents real ways to protect oneself. I wanted to add that I recently watched the movie from 1992 “Single White Female”. I highly recommend this movie b/c it shows the exactly personality of a Narcissist female and how she is deeply rooted/stuck in SHAME, and how she has become a shell of her former self as a result, making her pathologically envious of another female. It shows how she is charming, convincing, and fakes a connection; attempts to actually become the other woman due to pathological envy; feeds off of the positive energy the victim has created for herself; and then attempts to steal all of that energy for herself and wreck the victim in the process. Great, psychological study and really good movie.


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