If your partner has paranoia, it may wax and wane over the course of the relationship, but likely it will always be present in the background. Paranoia tends to manifest as a desire for control at all costs. In romantic relationships control seeking can show up in many different behaviors: information gathering, question asking, searching, reorganizing, spying, tracking, accusations of falsehoods, trap setting, or going through another’s phone and computer. Usually a combination of these actions is present.
The paranoid person may not think that these behaviors are strange and may even try to convince you that they are sensible actions in a relationship. Don’t be fooled by this way of thinking. These are anxiety reduction techniques at another person’s expense.
No one can ever know everything about another person, and who would want to??!! For example, do you really need to know every bodily function your partner has, or that they think your mother is a b-word, or even that a waiter broke a plate during lunch. Of course not. That’s why we edit and/or share given each unique life situation.