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This One Quality Might Be the Most Attractive Thing About You!

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According to How Stuff Works,  curiosity is a big bonding trait. People make relationships based on it- whether they share finding wonder in the world, and it’s even more important than whether you choose a partner or friend based on positive or negative traits! (The assumption in these studies is that you choose a cheerful, positive person, but eh, low-key has its attractions, too.)

I don’t think doing crossword puzzles has much to do with being curious. People like to learn, or play games, period. But this writer connects them.

The drive theory helps explain curiosity-seeking behavior. It shows us why we actively look for and engage in crossword puzzles or take up a musical instrument. Not only are these activities inherently superfluous, they also contain the risk of failure.

In the case of this cartoon, the man runs the risk of being slapped by the woman, or having the maitre’d throw him out, but with her, he’s met his match. 🙂

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Photo by Georgie Pauwels

One thing the study doesn’t bring up is the element of surprise. It’s a very strong . For instance, some people want to know how the movie ends,, and others can’t stand any hint about it. I’ve written before about my hobby of buying subscription boxes (usually of beauty samples, often a surprise.) When there are variations in what items are sent, subscribers just can’t wait to find out what is in their box that month! I have observed that this anxiety (?) about the outcome overrides rational decisions about whether someone even likes a product. They just like to be surprised!

And just like buying lottery tickets, everyone hopes the next box will have a winner. Or at least not be too disappointed.

I always think of birds when I think of curiosity, and sure enough, the last page of the article talks about this.

While this behavior may not fit the definition of human trait curiosity, the fact that the “curiosity gene” found in great tit birds related to dopamine is significant.

Couple things here: why would it not fit the definition of human curiosity? That’s silly. And it’s not just in great tit birds — It’s most birds, I’ve observed. And since birds are the most delicate and vulnerable animal, the risk is far higher for them when they take a chance on a new place, food, etc…and yet they can’t resist taking a chance to learn more!

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This One Quality Might Be the Most Attractive Thing About You!

Donna Barstow

Cartoonist for LA Times, Parade, WSJ, Glamour, PsychCentral, Barron's, Weight Watchers, and textbooks & Chicken Soup books. Author and editor of 2 cartoon books and a Barnes & Noble calendar.

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