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Which Relative Does Your Boyfriend Look Like?

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Today’s cartoon is about choosing your mate. No one really wants anyone like their father or mother, or really ANY relative, do they? Gross!!! And yet time and again, we choose partners with the same eyes or build or nose as a parent, and then wonder what’s wrong with us. Or some trait or habit reminds us of some family member, and who needs that?

therapist at workCould it be that we are somehow attracted romantically to a family member (gross, again!) or is it that finding something familiar in our potential partner (or hookup)  is comforting in the sudden intimacy of a new relationship?

Ah, Mic jumped me to the punch. They go so far as to say we prefer those who look like us, not just our family.

Research published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin in 2010 noted that brains process familiar images more easily.

And they add:

The key finding: People who remind us of ourselves or our parents are more attractive to us (but only if that resemblance is unconscious — phew).

CNN is a little harsher, and says, yeah, we often do marry our parents, so tough bunnies.

And they warn to watch out for trying to “right old wrongs” of your past. No one wants to be part of your morality play. (in my own words)

So good luck, and try to keep the excitement and attraction alive in your relationship in spite of the fact that both or either of you have parents. Kick them out of your bedroom.

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Which Relative Does Your Boyfriend Look Like?

Donna Barstow

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