Do you have a secure base?

If you grew up in a family in which emotions and relationships were chaotic, it is likely that you will go on to struggle with emotions and relationships.  One way of thinking and developing understanding of your situation is to think in terms of whether you have a secure base?


Do you suffer from undiagnosed loneliness?

loneliness, trauma and the rise of poor mental health

Frequently adults refer themselves to me wondering whether they have undiagnosed conditions such as Aspergers, or ADHD.  They will explain that they have been like this for ages, they have never had a diagnosis; 'what do you think?'


Disorganised Attachment

Understanding disorganised attachment

Disorganised attachment is a term used to describe people who;

struggle to maintain ordinary relationships
fail to deliver on their potential in work, education and development.

It can be the result of early experience with frightening and unpredictable parents. It can be the result of later traumatic experience or abuse.


Is addiction a family illness?

It is understandable that the focus of addiction is primarily on the addict.  However, my work and experience has shown me that addiction tends to be an illness or condition that develops around profound problems within the family unit, or system. It is important that we find ways to consider the way the family interacts, the way the system as a whole works, and to see what changes can be made to that.


Facing up to addiction

How do you break the destructive cycle of addiction?

When someone is in the grip of addiction it becomes impossible to reason with them.  Everything they say is coming through the filter of active addiction.  The conversation goes nowhere.  The only thing that matters to the addict is where and when the next drink, drug, or fix is.


Borderline personality disorder

Borderline personality disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterised by abnormal emotional behaviour, and by unstable emotional relationships with other people.

The individual suffers from a disturbance that is felt around issues of abandonment, trust and security.  Someone suffering BPD is likely to be especially sensitive to the emotional atmospheres they experience, and especially quick to feel the sense of emotional change and discord.


Dissociative states of mind

Dissociative states of mind can be brought on by:

too much stress
by living through traumatic events (PTSD)
repeated traumatic events (CPTSD)

Dissociation refers to a sense of feeling cut off from yourself or from the people around you. It can be a disturbing experience involving an unsettling sense of detachment. 


Complex PTSD

Living with Complex PTSD symptoms

Sometimes people are referred for psychotherapy to treat symptoms they describe as relating to anxiety or obsessional issues.

Often it transpires that there is an underlying condition of complex PTSD that has not been diagnosed.