It is a regrettable thing, but a lot of psychotherapy and counselling ends prematurely. Sometimes there is a shared sense of regret that the work won’t be going further, a shared sense that a connection has been made which might be important for the client, but which for obscure and perhaps rather unconscious reasons will not be going any further at this time.
Trauma has a particularly destructive effect on our minds and consciousness. After trauma we experience problems with time, memory, self, keeping perspective. In my view we have no choice but to continually try to re-balance our minds and selves. This is something we have to make a commitment to keep working on every day, throughout life.
All of us, when we were children will have gone through experiences of feeling momentarily forgotten and left by our parents. Why is it then that only some of us develop traumatic experiences out of those moments? Why doesn’t everybody suffer the same kind of traumatic disorientation?
Did you suffer from repeated childhood nightmares? Have those nightmares become embedded in your memory in a way that other things haven't? It is often the case when people have been exposed to trauma in childhood that they go onto experience significant problems with memory. And yet what is interesting is that we tend to remember our repeated nightmares from childhood.
In some cases it will be possible to deal with depression without medication. You need to assess your case carefully. If you are already on medication, then you will need to plan and review any changes with your GP and psychiatrist and carefully monitor any changes that you make. Having said that, the evidence from my work is that most, though not all of our psychological and emotional states, relate to our experiences. So, the clearer we can be about the link between those things the more likely we are to get more control over our moods. The challenge is in finding a way to see the link between what has happened to us and how we feel.
If so, how you can find a way to come to terms with the psychological injuries of the past, and to stop the old toxic experiences from contaminating and spoiling your present life? How do you recover from an upbringing with a narcissistic parent? If you were raised by a parent who suffered from narcissistic personality issues:
Narcissistic as a descriptive personality term is often overused and abused, but what does it mean? What are the consequences of growing up with a parent with narcissistic personality problems? The people we describe as narcissistic often tend to function very well. Socially they can come across as gifted and charming. They appear to have much better impulse control than would be found in people who display regressive personality characteristics or more severe borderline personality issues.
Grooming works by turning an innocent and vulnerable person into a guilty person. It leads to powerful and destructive feelings of shame and self-loathing becoming sealed up inside the abused victim. This sense of guilt and secrecy can create a lasting psychological injury, but this may be improved with care and time.
If you were raised by a narcissistic parent it is likely that your early life will have been marked by extreme unpredictability. You will not have experienced ordinary empathic attunement from your care giver and guardian, and this will have had a consequence in terms of how you have gone on to regulate your emotions, moods and psychology.
If you had a parent who suffered from undiagnosed narcissistic issues you probably grew up in a very disturbing home.
We all have different complexes. In Jungian analysis, consciousness and our experience of ourselves is made up of various complexes. Ignored, a complex has the power to significantly disturb us. When we are in the grip of a complex we are likely to behave irrationally and possibly make bad decisions.