3 thoughts on “Are You With A Controlling Partner? 11 Signs To Look Out For

  • September 27, 2014 at 7:00 pm

    Yeah, I knew all this already but thanks for posting and putting this information out there and reminding me. If I only knew then what I know now, right? And things are not easy to resolve when there are children involved, sigh.

    • October 8, 2014 at 3:53 pm

      Yes. We all have that “If I only knew then what I know now, right?” thing. I know I have felt that way in my life!

  • February 24, 2015 at 7:11 pm

    yes I had been so busy and doing well that I could ignore the controlling behavior .I live in a different house which helps. He can be great but he has outbursts of anger and yelling at really odd, minor things. He tend to TELL me where we are going and what time whether than ask.

    It has become a lot worse since he retired. He has some narcissistic tendencies. He does not have empathy for things he doesn’t understand. He understands the sadness of losing a dog or a child for example but if he has not experienced it including self-employment he tends to under play how difficult it is. When it is doing well he is happy when it’s not I should be doing all sorts of things though he has not one iota of interest in it and has no ideas. He has many degrees from distinguished universities so he believes he knows best. He pulls back when I don’t follow what he insists that I do!

    It has changed me recently the most since he retired and I believe that I am only a shell of the person I used to be. We do not have couple friends,he doesn’t want any except for his family. I don’t have really close friends where I live but i do have friends and do things with them but most are coupled at this stage in life & have a much more comfortable lifestyle than I do, are or seem to be happily married. He does have many good traits but lately he seems to be threatened. Perhaps he is not getting the strokes he had when he was important at work. I don’t know. I know I have to get out of it because he just gets insulted and does not talk to me, once for a year. It’s time to go before I die. I worry too if I become ill even though he is my life partner with his lack of altruism or empathy I won’t find a good resting place. We have been together for years and he promises me a lot, then we get back together. My daughter says i am a co dependent. Maybe she is right. I never was before but things happened in my life and he came along at the right time. We traveled the world. Now he is overly critical of everything I do. I know he has a good heart but I am concerned about my own heart and mental health but it may be too late.


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