4 thoughts on “Help! I Have A Target On My Back At Work

  • July 2, 2014 at 1:25 pm

    It’s actually your sympathetic nervous system that gets triggered. . .

    • July 2, 2014 at 1:48 pm

      Thanks for catching the error! I fixed it.

  • December 13, 2015 at 10:49 am

    Hi Cherilynn,

    I have a emotional societal bully at my work. I have been through a slew of jobs over this economic overhaul. After several months of unemployment and see saw of ups and downs am now slowly getting back on my feet. However, I currently am sitting next to a clear sought out sociopath whom directs all negative energy to me. He is causing me severe depression and causing me emotional problems at work. He is clearly a ugly, insecure and unhappy person whom likes to pick on one person and it is me. I did bring this to my attention of my director and manager. They will move me tomorrow. However, my question is how do I completely zone out his motives like him hanging out in the area i will sitting in or talking about me to where I can hear. (words do hurt) and giving me the evil eye. Seems this person is clearly wanting me fired I can’t afford this as am now getting back on track and want to just focus on stepping stones and moving forward to a more successful future. What gives w/ this sociopath he is extremely insecure and judgemental w/ quiet anger. Really a negative toxic soul and I feel really sick around him.

    • January 7, 2016 at 12:33 pm

      We have all been there, sugah’. (A southern saying-hope it doesn’t offend).

      Best thing you can do is try to emotionally detach as best you can and protect your back. I am glad you talked to your boss about some of this, just to give him/her a heads up. Getting moved was good too.

      Try not to make eye contact with this person. If you have to talk with them or look at them, look at the spot right above their forehead (I am not kidding!). This looks like you are looking them in the eye but you really aren’t. A massage person told me this trick and, weirdly, it really helps protect from absorbing toxic anger. If he is talking about you within hearing distance, quickly get up and go to the bathroom or get on the phone and laugh with friends. Make sure you can’t hear any of the negative meanness.

      Trying to protect yourself emotionally from getting sucked in is vital.

      In addition, it sounds like you have been through alot with the difficult employment situation. Treat yourself really kindly and considerately right now because you may be feeling zapped and vulnerable. You will get through this so ramp up the TLC.

      Thanks for writing in! Give us an update, please.


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