2 thoughts on “6 Big Reasons Women Don’t Report Sexual Abuse Right Away

  • October 2, 2018 at 3:14 am

    Hi Cherilynn,
    First I want to say that I feel so bad for what happened to the child that was raped–and I commend the mom for reporting it and believing her daughter! I wish my mom had been able to support me at the time. Secondly, I am absolutely LIVID at that female officer so I can only imagine how the mom and daughter feel (as well as yourself)! I’d want that officer either totally removed (suspended, disciplinary action, removed from investigating sexual assault and abuse, fired etc) OR, at the very LEAST, (re)-trained via the local rape crisis center or trauma therapist! An apology to the child and the mom would be helpful too.
    I read the book “Lucky” that you mentioned. I was upset at what she went through as well.
    Somehow, I can FEEL angry at what OTHER victims went through but I never feel it for myself. I guess maybe because it was a family member and I was a kid, it was too scary.

    • October 2, 2018 at 10:55 am

      Hi, Velveteen.
      I am so sorry to hear about your story. I hope you have gotten counseling from a licensed therapist about what happened to you. Our defenses often detach us from consciously connecting with powerful feelings when traumatized. It is a normal reaction. Could you contact me if you were sexually assaulted as a child by an adult? That is horrible and I am so sorry that happened to you. I am a court mandated reporter so that means if anyone shares that they were raped or sexually assaulted as a minor, I am court mandated to report that to authorities for investigation. My email is cherilynnveland@gmail.com.
      Thanks for writing in.


The discussion section is closed to new comments for this blog.