6 thoughts on “Are You A Narcissist? Or Are You The Opposite? Where Are You On The Lifeline

  • October 7, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    As I lean in the codependent direction myself, it would be helpful to have a third example in this article — one of a healthy, balanced individual. Something to aim for, you know?

  • October 7, 2014 at 4:55 pm

    Codependents and narcissists share many traits that aren’t immediately obvious, but they both seek control, have denial and problems with intimacy, and dysfunctional boundaries and communication. The most important common denominator is shame. Narcissists may seem to have high self-esteem, but they’re driven by the need for others to love, respect, and/or admire them, as are codependents. It’s not so much that the opposites attract, but each fulfills a certain need the other provides. To learn more, read my post, “Do You Love a Narcissist?”
    Darlene Lancer, LMFT
    Author of “Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You”

    • October 8, 2014 at 9:54 am

      You make excellent points. For anyone reading this comment, Darlene has a wonderful book out there called Conquering Shame and Codependency. She does some incredible work.

      • October 8, 2014 at 3:51 pm

        In addition, I agree that not all narcissists are cruel and borderline personality disorders are difficult to deal with as well. I do believe that divorce is not the only option for those who are in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Boundaries, self-care, and support can do wonders in creating a “new” relationship with others. I love the motto, “Let It Begin With Me”. That is from Twelve Step Literature. Thanks for adding, Darlene.

  • October 24, 2015 at 8:38 am

    Narcissism is a groupage of several defects and placed on one person
    thats what psychology is good at.

  • April 25, 2016 at 11:14 pm

    Narcissistic people will always be predators in some shape, form or fashion. Their true colors ultimately manifest themselves-try giving them an unfamiliar task to complete and watch how quickly they give up or get frustrated and curse, swear and belabor the task until they complete it.
    Ultimately they might get it done, but not without a lot of drama and obnoxious unnecessary dressing down of the inatimate object, the physical exertion they are asked to perform or questioning why something has to even be done. Narcissistists demand things be done FOR THEM, as they always believe they are above everyone else’s needs.


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