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5 Quick Tips To Manage All the Chaos and Anger Out There Right Now

Here’s to peaceful places

This is a weird and emotional time in our country. People are really upset. Or, people are upset that people are upset. It is crazy-making for both sides.

What to do about it?

  • The first way to manage angry feelings toward others is to try to get in touch with how they are processing things. The old adage, “Put yourself in someone else’s shoes” still holds true.

Say you believe that the apocalypse is coming. Would you be upset? Probably. Let’s say you believe that the apocalypse isn’t coming but that important things have to be put in place to make this country safe. And pretend like you thought others were trying to take that safety away from you—that wouldn’t feel good either. We are all just human, struggling to figure out what is important in life, and struggling to get our needs met and our beliefs respected.

  • Secondly, accept that one can wish other people to be different or act differently. However, we really have no control over anyone else. Therefore, trying to maintain an internal level of peace and “okayness” is all you really have some control over.
  • Thirdly, I see any life challenge as an opportunity to learn about one’s self and practice new skills. Do some deep thinking about what life experiences led you to believe what you believe. Think about how you might get triggered when others don’t go along with this. Do you engage with others politely when you disagree? Are you kind and respectful in tone and attitude?
  • Be The Change you want to see in the world. Get politically active, join committees, donate to causes you see as worthy. That way, you are doing what you can.
  • Lastly, practice making peaceful choices. If you feel agitated when watching or listening to the news, try a classical music station instead. Disconnect from Twitter, Facebook, or restrict the time you spend on these sites to a certain time every day. Pick a time period to do this, like 20-30 minutes. Then, go for walk.

How are you processing the conflict and drama you see from where you are?

Take care,

Cherilynn Veland is author of Stop Giving It Away, a self-advocacy book for women. Stop Giving It Away is the product of 20+ years of social work and counseling individuals and couples. Cherilynn also blogs about home, work, life, and love at (look for new developments). 


5 Quick Tips To Manage All the Chaos and Anger Out There Right Now

Cherilynn Veland, LCSW, MSW

Cherilynn Veland, MSW, LCSW, is a counselor and coach based in Chicago. She has been helping individuals, couples and families for more than 20 years. She is author of Stop Giving It Away, a book about developing healthier relationships with yourself and others. The Stop Giving It Away movement aims to stop the detrimental level of self-sacrifice in which many women live and work. Winner of the 2015 National Indie Excellence Book Award in the Women's Issues category - Stop Giving It Away.

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