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What Do Good Men Have in Common?

Good MenDoes the ideal man exist?

I think that looking for the perfect guy is like looking for the perfect home—doesn’t exist. Men and women alike have their good and not-so-good attributes. Even the best have bad days once in a while. However, the good men I know show the following characteristics:

  1. Good men are loving, caring, and compassionate.
  2. Good men don’t need to control you or anything else.
  3. Good men express themselves respectfully.
  4. Good men are good listeners.
  5. Good men admire and respect their partner.
  6. Good men keep their word and follow through.
  7. Good men take care of themselves while balancing the needs of those around them.
  8. Good men share responsibilities with their partner.
  9. Good men spend time with their kids.
  10. Good men have insight into their emotional life, and they work on this to continue learning and
  11. growing.
  12. Good men make decisions based on the principles of their highest self.
  13. Good men they have challenges, they work through them.
  14. Good men wrong, they admit it, make amends and try to do it differently next time.
  15. Good men are open-hearted, supportive, encouraging and positive.


A healthy relationship is one in which you are free to be and think independently, to live without walking on eggshells or, worse, in fear.

A healthy relationship is not without its challenges, but the core condition of the healthy relationship revolves around personal freedom, mutual respect and admiration, and feeling supported and encouraged.

How do you define a healthy relationship? What are some of the ways relationship matters fall out of balance? Your comments are welcomed. cherilynnvelandSM

About the author: Cherilynn M. Veland, LCSW, MSW, is author of the forthcoming book Stop Giving It Away. She leads a new self-advocacy movement intended to help women reach out, speak up, and take action steps for what’s best for them. Please support this effort by liking the Facebook page and/or subscribing for updates. You can also connect on Twitter and Google Plus. 

What Do Good Men Have in Common?

Cherilynn Veland, LCSW, MSW

Cherilynn Veland, MSW, LCSW, is a counselor and coach based in Chicago. She has been helping individuals, couples and families for more than 20 years. She is author of Stop Giving It Away, a book about developing healthier relationships with yourself and others. The Stop Giving It Away movement aims to stop the detrimental level of self-sacrifice in which many women live and work. Winner of the 2015 National Indie Excellence Book Award in the Women's Issues category - Stop Giving It Away.

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