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5 Quick Tips To Manage All the Chaos and Anger Out There Right Now

Here's to peaceful places

This is a weird and emotional time in our country. People are really upset. Or, people are upset that people are upset. It is crazy-making for both sides.

What to do about it?

The first way to manage angry feelings toward others is to try to get in touch with how they are processing things. The old adage, “Put yourself in someone else’s shoes” still holds true.

Say you believe that the apocalypse is coming....
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The Importance of the Goodbye

peace in a palmetto tree
Much has been written and sung of goodbyes. I recently said goodbye to a city and life that I once loved in Chicago. More than 20 years of accumulated life was consolidated into a moving truck and sent down the road. I followed.
In the beginning, when this all came about, I avoided the goodbyes. If I didn’t say goodbye, maybe I could avoid strong feelings of loss. I fantasized that...
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Wish I Could Sleep

Once you stop sleeping, everything changes.
Then begins a cascade of side effects — irritability, low energy, changes in eating habits, maybe weight gain, difficulty with concentration, alertness, memory. You can begin to look old before your time, and you may get sick more often. 
Sleep is extremely important to optimal physical and mental function.
We women lose a lot of sleep and for many reasons. 
If...
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Pour It Up: Healthy Helping and Decision Making

Healthy helping and healthy decision-making — what’s that look like?
I use the term Detrimental Caretaker to describe a person who gives until she (or he) feels empty and angry.
The opposite of detrimental caretaking is healthy helping. When we think of healthy helping holding hands with the string of decisions we make each day, let's think about what it means to be a Healthy Decision Maker.
Most women manage the trappings...
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Courageous Conversations

I don't know many people who relish uncomfortable conversations. Personally, I do not. These are the conversations that can look and feel awfully messy when we think about them. They can make the heart flutter in dreadful anticipation. Fear sometimes factors in. As a social worker, I have been part of many such conversations between people.

Difficult conversations are inevitable. Like it or not, they are necessary for delivering bad news, working toward solutions, resolving disagreement or disappointment, and correcting or...
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6 Powerful Tips To Remember When You Are Doing An Intervention On A Loved One Or How Not To Lose Your Sh*t When Doing An Intervention

Prince died-probably of an overdose. Addiction is everywhere. So sad.

A group of women came up to me at a baseball game a few weeks ago and asked how my trip to Texas went. “I heard you were out of town. Awesome! Was it fun?"

I am a terrible liar, so I told the truth. “Actually, I flew down to Texas to do an alcohol intervention on someone I know. At least the...
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