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Childhood Trauma

4 Effects of a Controlling Upbringing People Struggle With


In the previous articles we talked about the signs of controlling parenting and why it doesn’t work in terms of raising a healthy, happy, self-sufficient individual. Today, we will look at the common problems people raised in a controlling environment have as adults.

If you have been raised in a controlling environment or know somebody who has, you may recognize some of the signs described below.


Communication

When People’s Feedback Matters and When It Doesn’t



Since we live around people, we get all kinds of direct and indirect feedback from them. This feedback is about how we act, what we feel, and what we think in relation to their own values and worldview.

Now, because human beings’ perception of the world is subjective and limited, sometimes some aspects of our worldview and some of our values can be skewed or invalid when compared to reality. As a result, the feedback that we give and receive can be meaningful, helpful, and honest, or pointless, manipulative, and damaging—and everything in between.

So when does people’s feedback matter and when shouldn’t we take it to heart?