Different people have difficulties with different situations. What you don’t even pay attention to can be highly problematic or worrisome to someone else, and vice versa. Here are five social behaviors and situations that people with social anxiety struggle to accept as perfectly fine.
In the previous article, we looked at the four most common perfectionistic tendencies. Today, we will explore the origins of perfectionism and some tips to manage it.
Perfectionism is one the most widespread set of tendencies people suffer from. Here are some of more common perfectionistic traits that you may recognize in yourself or people you know.
In the previous articles we talked about the signs of controlling parenting and why it doesn’t work in terms of raising a healthy, happy, self-sufficient individual. Today, we will look at the common problems people raised in a controlling environment have as adults. If you have been raised in a controlling environment or know somebody who has, you may recognize some of the signs described below.
There are different styles of child rearing and, unfortunately, the controlling style is one of the most prevalent. Here, instead of gently guiding the child’s authentic self, the parent tries to make and mold the child into whatever they think the child should be.
Since we live around people, we get all kinds of direct and indirect feedback from them. This feedback is about how we act, what we feel, and what we think in relation to their own values and worldview. Now, because human beings’ perception of the world is subjective and limited, sometimes some aspects of our worldview and some of our values can be skewed or invalid when compared to reality. As a result, the feedback that we give and receive can be meaningful, helpful, and honest, or pointless, manipulative, and damaging—and everything in between. So when does people’s feedback matter and when shouldn’t we take it to heart?
Over time, we become used to whatever environment we are in, even if it is lacking, problematic, or dissatisfying. This is even more problematic when we are in close relationship, like a familial or a romantic one, because it is easy to get into a mental state where we feel stuck in this environment. And when a person feels stuck, sometimes they feel and behave as if they actually are stuck. This quickly becomes complicated when people carry their childhood environments into adulthood. All of this and more make personal relationships toxic, complex, problematic, or dissatisfying. So what can you do when you find yourself in situations like these?