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Childhood Trauma

A Brief Guide to Unprocessed Childhood Toxic Shame


Toxic shame is one of the most common debilitating feelings that people struggle with.

Toxic shame is a term that refers to a chronic feeling or emotional state of feeling bad, worthless, inferior, and fundamentally flawed. It is called toxic because it is unjust, whereas healthy shame is when we do something morally wrong, such as aggressing against others.


Childhood Trauma

5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Childhood Trauma Sets for Us


When we’re born, we don’t have any concept of what a healthy relationship looks like. A small child lacks perspective and the ability to critically evaluate their environment. They also lack independence, by the very nature of being a small, helpless, dependent child, and therefore must accept and justify their relationship with their caregivers in order to survive, no matter how bad that relationship is.


Childhood Trauma

6 Hurtful Childhood Lessons That Linger into Adulthood


Children are, by nature, helpless and dependent human beings whose existence and well-being is dependent on the adults around them. This means that they have no choice but to trust their caregivers (parents, teachers, priests, family members, elders). Moreover, children are in development and new to the world, and therefore they are naturally ignorant and impressionable.


Childhood Trauma

Childhood Trauma: How We Learn to Lie, Hide, and Be Inauthentic


Naturally, human beings strive to seek truth. Ideally, we also aim to tell the truth.

However, most people are highly inauthentic, overly worried about others opinions‘ of them, and constantly lie as adults. Sometimes consciously, often unconsciously. And if you look at a very small child, at someone who‘s still for the most part untraumatized and unbroken, you notice that children can be exceptionally honest.


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How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story


People with strong narcissistic tendencies are known for certain destructive social patterns. Anybody who has had the misfortune of dealing with these types of people may notice that whenever there’s a conflict or any type of disagreement, they tend to act in an abhorrent yet predictable manner.

In this article we will explore the common behaviors and scenarios where narcissistic and otherwise toxic people (hereafter narcissists) play the victim and manipulate the narrative.


Childhood Trauma

The Perils of Perfectionism and Feeling Not Good Enough


Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. 
― Brené Brown

The Origins of Perfectionism
The unfortunate reality is that most of us suffer from perfectionism to one degree or another.