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Childhood Trauma

6 Hurtful Childhood Lessons That Linger into Adulthood


Children are, by nature, helpless and dependent human beings whose existence and well-being is dependent on the adults around them. This means that they have no choice but to trust their caregivers (parents, teachers, priests, family members, elders). Moreover, children are in development and new to the world, and therefore they are naturally ignorant and impressionable.


Childhood Trauma

Childhood Trauma: How We Learn to Lie, Hide, and Be Inauthentic


Naturally, human beings strive to seek truth. Ideally, we also aim to tell the truth.

However, most people are highly inauthentic, overly worried about others opinions‘ of them, and constantly lie as adults. Sometimes consciously, often unconsciously. And if you look at a very small child, at someone who‘s still for the most part untraumatized and unbroken, you notice that children can be exceptionally honest.


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How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story


People with strong narcissistic tendencies are known for certain destructive social patterns. Anybody who has had the misfortune of dealing with these types of people may notice that whenever there’s a conflict or any type of disagreement, they tend to act in an abhorrent yet predictable manner.

In this article we will explore the common behaviors and scenarios where narcissistic and otherwise toxic people (hereafter narcissists) play the victim and manipulate the narrative.


Childhood Trauma

The Perils of Perfectionism and Feeling Not Good Enough


Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. 
― Brené Brown

The Origins of Perfectionism
The unfortunate reality is that most of us suffer from perfectionism to one degree or another.


Childhood Trauma

Healthy Ways to React to Common Toxic and Manipulative Words


Verbal abusers, manipulators, those with strong narcissistic tendencies, and otherwise toxic people wittingly or unwittingly use language to hurt and exploit others. Sometimes it’s because they feel insecure and want to attack others to feel better about themselves. Other times they just want something from you and say untrue and hurtful things to get it. Or sometimes they want to justify their abusive behavior or shift responsibility.

In these cases, along with many others, they use words to manipulate you. In a previous article, titled


Childhood Trauma

4 Ways Childhood Adversity Teaches Us a Wrong Understanding of Love


The feeling of being valuable—"I am a valuable person"—is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline. It is a direct product of parental love. Such a conviction must be gained in childhood; it is extremely difficult to acquire it during adulthood. Conversely, when children have learned through the love of their parents to feel valuable, it is almost impossible for the vicissitudes of adulthood to destroy their spirit. 
— M. Scott Peck
A child is dependent on the people who raise them, who have authority and power over them, and this is on their caregivers. The child learns about relationships from their relationship with their primary caregivers. And most importantly, this is how the child learns how to self-relate.