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14 Signs of Mentally Strong People

Psychological, intellectual, and emotional strength is, in many ways, the ability to perceive reality for what it really is, and then manage your emotions about those observations in a healthy, productive manner.

Mental strength is revealed by both what we do and, at other times, by what we don’t do.

Here are 14 signs of a mentally strong individual…

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14 Signs of Mentally Strong People

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  1. Very interesting and informative read. However, given that it is Mental Health Awareness Week in the UK, I would have liked to have this taken into consideration. As in USA the UK is struggling to cope with the ever increasing numbers of people with mental health conditions. Our NHS is not equipped, nor do they have staff/resources, to deal with often complex and difficult issues. We have to be willing to talk about these issues openly. This is not the case in the UK. People with mental health problems are still stigmatised against and is not going to change unless we make it the norm to be able to open up, to family, friends and everyone about what we are facing. Nothing will change if we are afraid to talk about the epidemic that we are facing here in the UK.

    • The list above sounds perfect, in fact I feel quite resentful, but like many people including myself, I wish I had those mental strengths, but when you are slowly recovering from PTSD, it can take years, especially if it isn’t diagnosed earlier enough or you are not given the right treatment and therapy, which was the same in my case.
      I had to go to the ombudsman, which took several years of fighting and investigation, because the NHS had failed me, meaning they didn’t recognise my PTSD and obviously I didn’t get the right treatment, treatment I should have obtained 20 years back, when I still had time and my youth etc..
      Eventually, only very recently the ombudsman came back in my favour and suggested some far reaching proposals, these are now going to my MP, who it has been suggested, will raise them in parliament!
      I doubt there are very few people in the UK who have the mental strengths listed above, if they have they are either very lucky or were fortunate enough not to suffer trauma from narcissist child abuse etc..

    • There is still a certain amount of stigma attached to those with emotional conditions in the US. At the same time, among certain economic/social circles, some are “fads” for some. It is also a large industry in the US. There are so many subtle messages in the media that at times it appears to not have any is in itself an issue.
      Men are especially affected as the view that a “real man” doesn’t show emotion is still prevalent.

  2. thankyou, I feel better about myself already! 🙂

  3. An interesting read, if tending to the ideal.

    Part of being “realistic” is also knowing that life is not perfect and one cannot be happy or content all the time. Life happens. Accepting and processing the less than perfect times is part of being strong, that it is not only OK, but healthy to experience and process these times as an individual, not on some timeline established by another. The depth of emotion is also an indicator of emotional connection with events that trigger loss and grief and others.

    It is emotional connection and how to accept, to acknowledge, this as individuals, respecting others as individuals, that ties us together in community.

  4. Darius,
    I really enjoy your articles.

    You are describing psychosocial hardiness. You are also describing persons who are self-actualized as per A. Maslow. M. Bowen also describes these folks as clearly self-differentiated. They have achieved optimal level of integration in regards to their personality development. Often these persons experience moments of intense joy and contentment. They also show high levels of intrapersonal and interpersonal
    intelligence. Folks like this are not taken by power, prestige, or property. In fact they are quite humble.

    Thanks so much,
    Rich, MSW

  5. Thank you. Sometimes I wonder if I’m a weirdo because I don’t mind being alone and find needy people exhausting. So many are constantly participating in family drama around me and feel they must police the activities of others. Who has time for that? Then again

    • I’m considered strange.

      • Judy. You are just being yourself. Remember, everyone else is taken.

        If you were rich, you would be praised as an eccentric.
        And if you have some rough parts you don’t like, those can be fixed.

        As a relatively strange person of 67 years, I figure it is other people who are strange. IMO, the so-called mentally ill, except for the very extreme disorders, are saner than the majority of people.

  6. These 14 characteristics of a “mentally strong” person could be written without imposing a particular set of beliefs, such as that “the universe does not care [about you].” While I wholeheartedly concur, I know many people for whom the existence of a god/God is critical to their belief system; that god/God who is “watching” may be what matters as the spirit of the universe. What is often true is that most other *people* don’t care or even notice you and what you choose to do or not do. As you state elsewhere, a realistic understanding and acknowledgment of one’s strengths is important, as is a realistic sense of what you need or want to improve about yourself (which first requires acknowledging those shortcomings). A realistic acknowledgment of whom you impact and whom you don’t is part of that. An acceptance of others as they are, with all their strengths and room for improvement, is the flip side of this.

    • God did give us free will. Some people and religions forget that.
      Unfortunately, our nature (genetics) and nurture (environment) have a lot to do with our personality. Free will can be a difficult thing to handle because of that combination that makes us unique. Free will can get buried under the programming of that personality.

    • Acknowledging one’s strengths is perhaps one of the greatest ways of mending broken self-esteem which appears to be a major cause of the mood, affective, and personality disorders.

  7. Concerning Number 2. I dont dislike anyone unless their behavior is consistently rude, cruel or toxic overall. Even then Im aware they have personal issues and attempt to view the situation with some form of empathy yet also protect myself, keep them at arms length and attempt to warn others of their behavior.

    I believe this one (2) is a true sign of a mature or immature culture, group etc. Disliking people simply because you cannot relate to them seems highly counter productive. It happens to be one of our largest stumbling blocks as human beings in my personal opinion.

    There is alot to be learned/gained from attempting to relate to others outside of your comfort zone.

    I understand and accept this is going to happen yes however I do not fully understand it and find this to be one of our most unfortunate traits as human beings.

    Healthy tolerance leads us to so many amazing things, journeys and people. Sad we should continue to dislike people simply because we cannot relate to them.

    Once we evolve out of this fear based mindset (if ever) Thats when the world will change for the better in some truly amazing ways not until then and no sooner.

    • I must add that when I speak of relating Im not suggesting we overlook the behavior of chronic abusers and/or those suffering from very real emotional/mental disorders. I do believe in those cases we must act accordingly and do what is healthiest for ourselves and those we love.

  8. Thank u for the article, a good read, wisdom at it’s finest.

  9. The Only Way to stay Free is to be Mentally Strong…this article was much needed for me…Thanks

  10. Were that the President has at least some of these traits. We need good examples, role models for the next generations. Let’s be those for them!

  11. I remember a time when I had none of these, though I have some now, with more than a few kinda spotty, educationally speaking.
    Given a state of reasonable happiness, I think I’m allowed a few wobbles, which I tend to see as foundation blocks for furthering my life education.
    Not aiming for perfection, but a rather Nietzche-ian process of “building the bridge on which you, and only you, can cross the river of life” to quote the man.
    Needless to say, I have fallen in more times than I care to mention, but life certainly isn’t shit creek anymore, having successfully processed a lot of the murk from my past.

  12. Very helpful and thought provoking ideas.the most important sign that I come a cross with is control. We don’t realize that not all things is in our control but it’s an unconscious drive that compels us to be in control of every thing.but the point remains unclear to what we are trying to control. To control or to have all the knowledge of reality or to have the capacity in influencing racial segregation or to have the power of ending poverty. I think more discussion on this “control” is needed.
    Thank for this sound article!


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