2 thoughts on “The Trap of External Validation for Self-Esteem

  • May 3, 2018 at 9:34 pm

    Some of this I do not agree with. There have been studies with various mammalian species that when deprived of external validation, certain pathological behaviors are exhibited such as self-harm and aggressiveness. To state that self-esteem is entirely self-dependent resembles more of a solipsistic viewpoint. We absolutely depend on other people’s validation for survival. As an epistemological position, solipsism holds that knowledge of anything outside one’s own mind is unsure; the external world and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist. I’m sorry, but much of this article does not resonate with me. We are living in a society that constantly tells us that we are not good enough and that the undesirables must be eliminated.

  • September 7, 2018 at 4:12 am

    Excellent piece, well written. I “grabbed” some articles from the web around external validation models for a client to read ahead of our next session. Having just read this one – I have to say that it is infomative, succinct and definitely one that I will be exploring further with my client in terms of the content.


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