2 thoughts on “How Feeling Not Good Enough Makes You Unhappy

  • February 13, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    I believe that the “always” in your sentence is inaccurate re: childhood experience. Our current culture in the US, as well as social media, delivers a message that invites comparison and expectations of absolute excellence that I have witnessed has a significant and growing impact on individuals of many backgrounds…an emphasis on performance and appearance beyond personal value.
    Thanks for bringing the topic to discussion!

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    • March 18, 2020 at 1:00 pm

      “A person who feels not good enough always comes from a wanting and difficult childhood environment.”

      If this is the “always” the commenter is referring to, it struck me immediately to as not “always” the case. The issues described fit me very well. The thing is–I was treated really well, never made to do chores, told that school was my only job. But I was very sensitive, a loner, socially awkward, and felt I had to do the best of anyone in class. If I got a 98 and someone else got 100, I was disappointed in myself. My mother was very judgmental of others and I was very careful not to disappoint her. She talked to me at a very early age as one would a friend because she was isolated. I had a lot of concerns as a child and a drive to do extremely well in school and be very well behaved. Oddly, there was a rebellious streak way down deep in side. But I never exercised it toward my parents. I became a people pleaser and thereby a target for people who was looking for someone to dedicate themselves to pleasing and demand nothing in return.

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