3 thoughts on “Using Euphemistic Language Obfuscates Abuse and Betrays Victims

  • July 14, 2019 at 11:29 pm

    If you have been abused, don’t let others define your experiences and emotions. Find accurate and precise words to describe what happened to you and how you feel. It’s the first step to overcoming it.

    Good advice but think of the words that we have to use in order to describe our situation. Narcissist, gaslighting. projection, flying monkeys or sycophants, scapegoat, all of which need much explaining to those who have not been abused. I find it exasperating to try and explain what happened to me.

    Thank you for all of the articles that you write, Darius, you are the best.

  • July 18, 2019 at 7:57 pm

    I do hope this response is on topic…as a woman with a chemical brain disorder, I have lived with the stigma created by language like ‘mental Illness’ ‘psych ward’.’mental problems’…for over thirty years. These terms are in common usage, not considered by most ( I believe) as non-toxic. A person for instance who has been diagnosed with a bipolar disorder is referred to as “bipolar”, as opposed to being considered an individual human being WITH a disorder. To illustrate my point, the language of cancer is different. An individual is considered to HAVE cancer. They are not called “Cancer”.
    The words “mental illness”, having a history of ‘mental’ problems is language bandied about by the media and in common everyday speech as a very negative, unappealing and downright dangerous condition. Therefore, a bipolar illness is also considered in a very negative light.
    Actually, since this affective disorder is actually a physical disorder, I prefer the language “chemical brain disorder”. How do others feel about that, I wonder? And it follows that when hospitalized the patient would be in a chemical brain disorder ward…which removes the terrible victimization that happens to a person in a”mental hospital”
    I am sixty-nine years old, and I know that in my lifetime we will not see the removal of words like…psycho, loony bin, men in the white coats, insane, bipolar and mentally ill… from our common everyday speech.. But, this may occur in future generations..

  • July 22, 2019 at 11:41 am

    Imo there could do with being an article like this aimed at males this happens to them just as often I think but hardly spoke about because boys have become programmed that they shouldn’t discuss feelings they are even more less likely to tell anyone


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